I have been thinking about one thing recently… I learn a lot from my boyfriend. We watched some funny videos and he laughed so hard that he had tears in his eyes. I really loved it. I really like how genuine and open he can be when it comes to emotions.

I realized that I tend to hold myself back a lot. I have a nice feeling in me, a loving emotion and I just have it inside… I do not express it. I would like to learn to be more open… This comes from our society a lot… people here are generally very closed off when it comes to emotions… you hardly ever see someone smiling in the street or in the shops… I always try to smile, thinking about something nice, and while some people return the smile, most of them appear to be annoyed by me.

But I am much better at expressing love to my boyfriend (and our pets). I keep my promises! ❤️

I think that taking breaks is a great idea, Alessa. It helps me, too.

I wish I could help more. I think that I am a very simple person. You all here have a lot of knowledge… psychology, philosophy… I don’t know a lot of things and I often feel a bit off-topic because I don’t know a lot of background you have and know. So, I could have a different feeling, opinion and could just hurt somebody.

Maybe just “❤️ 🙂” is sometimes more than words.

No, Anita, I am not interested in analyses. If you are not interested in real people and genuine conversation, we should move on independently. I think that you didn’t understand anything from what I wrote a few weeks ago.

Hello Alessa,

I really like how you enjoy parenthood and see your role as a mom as a way to learn and grow. ❤️ I wish all parents could do that. Some parents have a child and feel like all their responsibilities end there. Other parents feel like they own the child and project their dreams onto them. Sometimes it seems to me as if no one understands what it really means to be a parent… it’s only written about in magazines and books, but who actually understands it in practical life?

And that is the problem with knowledge. It is not enough to know… it must be put in practice. If you know what I mean. It applies to all parts of our lives – being a partner, a parent, mental health, spirituality, work, …

I like that we can practice the positive self-talk with animals, too. 🐈

I am leaving today for a holiday, so I wanted to leave a note here before I am offline for quite a long time.

Anita, I believe that it would be the best for both of us to not continue communicating together.

What I would like to emphasize is that it’s not meant to be bad at all. I think that the two of us are so different on the spectrum of thinking – feelings that we’ll just keep going in the circle of misunderstanding. I wish we could part on good terms. 🙏 😊

I don’t see it as bad. Quite the opposite. It’s proof that when people don’t understand each other internally, they’re just too different, so it’s perfectly fine to break up on good terms and let each other go. ❤️

Also, we both have completely different interests in this forum. After reaching my internal validation, I am looking more for friends, I want to be close to real people with similar hobbies… nature, buddhism, peace, love… just common things in our lives… You need a lot of intellectual conversation, analysing… you know very well that I don’t agree with it, as I see that as a form of running away. Too big difference in interest, thinking between us…

It was a pleasure to meet you. I’ve never met anyone like you. However, I don’t like going in circles, I don’t like repeating the same harmful patterns… and my heart tells me that I just need to let you go to step out… It is really meant with love, understanding and peace.

I am sending lots of ❤️ ☀️ on your path of healing. Let’s part on good terms and go our seperate ways.

You don’t have to answer. I am satisfied with peaceful silence. 🙂 👋