I feel as though I have outgrown my friends. I feel sad because I have lots of nice memories with them and I know they are good people. They can sometimes be not very nice people though. I know deep down they are good but they can sometimes be very mean, selfish, and judgmental. They gossip a LOT and this makes it hard for me to be around them. I do not think like them anymore. I have a different viewing of the world now and I’m actually very happy about it. I have evolved and began a journey to discover who I really am. I am finally confident in myself and love myself and want to be the greatest version of myself after years of being very depressed and negative all the time. I am okay with being alone and don’t get very lonely. But I still would enjoy having friends. I would like new friends who try to understand me. Friends who are supportive of my journey and care about my well being as much as I care about theirs. This makes it very hard for me to distance myself from my current friends. I can’t connect with them anymore. We have nothing in common and all they talk about is what other people are wearing or getting “fucked up”. I don’t drink anymore and this also makes it hard for me when I am around them. They don’t really do much other than party or talk trash on people. When I suggest we go on picnics or go outside or basically do anything that doesn’t involve their usual activities they aren’t interested. I used to be like them but I just am not anymore. I have little to talk about with them because I don’t care to engage in their gossiping or negativity. They way I think of it in my head is “we just aren’t on the same wavelength anymore”. I feel as if I have taken a different path in life and I hope they one day love themselves enough to change their ways and live a life not filled with negativity. I don’t want to burn any bridges with them and I don’t know how to make friends. I am quite shy until I get to know a person well. I have had these friend almost my whole life and I don’t really know how to go about making new friends or where to find them. All I really have is the people at my high school but I have found that most of them are the same as my friends. I’m not saying they are immature in a way of grown up mature (old age, a job, kids, a house) I would say they are immature in a way of emotional maturity. They just don’t really get me and I find it hard to be myself around them for this reason. I would really like friends who are the same as me. Friends who care about things. Friends who are supportive and don’t make fun of me for things I care about. Basically, I know I need knew friends but I am having doubts that I will be able to find people like myself and thus being friendless forever. I would love to share my journey with likeminded friends.
My questions are-
How do I go about making new friends?
Where would I find friends like me?
Am I doing the wrong thing by trying to make new friends?
Am I being judgemental by not wanting to be around my old friends?
Is it better to have no friends at all than to have friends who are unsupportive and maybe even toxic to your growth?
much love- Dom