Hi there.
What a terrible past.. Im so sorry to hear, it makes me hurt for you.
i don’t want to put in my opinion what you should do or how you should do, but this question i know, you won’t even know how to answer. WHY ARE YOU BACK WITH HER MAN?? she treated you so bad…
i don’t know how you treat her, or how she treats you… She is nothing but an old lady now and realised she can’t find anyone better than you.
You are not even happy…
You feel betrayed, not once… but many times. I understand the fact that you love her so much, no one ever made you feel this way. But after her, did you ever open up to any other girls? Did you ever once let your past go and let a right person help you through or you only treat them wrong because you were hurt of your past. I hope the way i talk don’t offend you, but you man.. you deserve so much better.
Love is blind, and when you put in so much effort… done everything perfectly right, you have a business, a boy friend material you were to her, yet she still cheated on you.
That’s her problemmm… its not yours.
You know the reason why you always love and still love her, you already said it.
It is because, you don’t understand how she could do that to you? You pretty much kneel on your knee wanting her love and to be faithful and she still did what she did. You only lingering because you are so confuse. It hurts you so much because you know you did so much for her, and you did’t achieve what you want. Because you were fighting for something that never love you like you did to her. You keep coming back to prove yourself that you can save this love, because you love her so so much. And it killed you because you did not achieve it. You feel like you failed for something you longing for.
You are a business man, i assume…. business man enjoy the chase and challenge, she is a challenge to you, and also a chase. And even til now she is.
But thats a point, another point is.. she’s not just someone, she’s someone who made you feel like any other girls could. But you never gave any other girls a chance… you are so hurt, you are so damaged and your heart is numb to the point where you destroyed your own moral..
ts a curse to meet a woman when you have something in your hand, it is more guarantee when you meet someone and have nothing..
She comes to you, when you’re rich, and left you for a richer man, and then one after another and you once rescue her again.
I can admire your love for her…
But it is so important to have some self respect to leave, for her to leave you and you would still come back to her every single times… Female gets bored of that, she takes you for granted…

And you decided to be with this lady. Please take meditation classes, do some yoga and believe in forgiveness.. The only way you can go through this is to forgive her, if she treats you good now. Just appreciate every little things that she is doing for you for what she have never done for you before. You finally get what you want from her and be happy with that. If you are with her, you have to let go of the past or you will forever be unhappy and hating your life. Love yourself and show her that only you can provide her what she wants and need. Think for her, for her sins and action, she did what she did because she did not know any better, thats why she did what she did to you ok? If you can forgive her, everything will be fine.
Im so sorry to hear. I hope, maybe you realise something.. and maybe can use my advice and sorry about all my opinion. But you do need to know all that to forgive her. She must have a past to made her become that way, no one ever grow up to hurt anyone. We were born to love not to hate.

• This reply was modified 10 years ago by Luna.

Hi Czm. You know deep down inside what is and is not right for you. We all have a gut instinct, sometimes it’s responses are ones which we do not like or may involve great pain but it doesn’t make the truth of it go away. But from your post I get the feeling you believe you deserve more than where you are right now. Your time and love precious share it with someone who will appreciate it. She maybe a changed woman, but I have found once trust like that has been broken it tends to always leave a scar behind.

Hope you find clarity on your situation, more importantly hope you find happiness.

Love and peace xx Aysha

CM,

I am sorry for all of the suffering you both have encountered.

We must, at all times, remain compassionate and forgiving towards each other for none of us are perfect and therefore cannot reason what Right and Wrong are unless we have the proper influences. The important things, however, are not the mistakes we make but whether or not we have learned from them. Also, it is to be understood that mistakes HAVE to be made to teach us our lessons. As someone once quoted ‘A life lived without mistakes is a life not lived at all.’ For example, if you had never touched a hot stove, how would you ever had known that it was hot and that you should not touch it? If you had never fallen and scraped your knee, how would you ever have known how to walk/run with care? If you had never said anything hurtful, how would you ever know that it wasn’t unless the person who received your words showed pain?

For the both of you, and perhaps especially her, the experiences she had were meant to happen for now she has come to learn what love and care really are and also to fully embrace them. As for you, do your best to embrace an appreciative attitude for her realization of her behavior and change to become a better individual. It is at these times that we must be most happy for one another for having overcome our faults. Also, it is the attitude you must have if you truly care for her for we must want the best for those we love, don’t you think so?

I hope this helps,

Al