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August 13, 2018 at 8:52 am #221285JayParticipant
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. When we first got together everything was alright. I caught him talking to few females in the beginning of the relationship but we got over it. Soon after I ended up getting pregnant and we ended up getting our own place. Once we got our own place he was barely there he was lazy I didn’t feel like he helped enough and everything just started falling apart. We got into a couple physical fights. We don’t fight anymore. He don’t trust me he forever think I’m messing around I don’t trust him he has Facebook and I don’t. Over all he is a good guy he helps with the kids. He keeps me laughing the sex is still perfect. But overtime I’ve been tired of not doing anything no communication sitting in silence. I asked him to pay the rent bill he swore up and down he forgotten. So here recently I told him I couldn’t do it anymore we had our little talk but the next day while he was sleep I packed some of my things and left to my moms80 miles away he broke down saying he can’t do it without me he loves me he wants me to come home he’s sorry he know it’s his fault he wants to change he just needs help he’s willing to do whatever to get me back I’m his only friend I care about him more than anyone etc etc. I’m very numb to everything right now I don’t know how to feel I don’t know what to do. I see better opportunities since I moved and I only been gone a day. I’m tired of the same ol in the city I moved from I’m ready for new things. Things has changed a little over the years. He stopped leaving all the time he’s home more but for some reason I feel like it’s to late. I told him I don’t want to move back down there because there’s nothing for me now he wants to come down here with me. Should I go back or what should I do. I love him we been through EVERYTHING together. Everything. I hate to see him cry and beg but for some reason I can’t cry I don’t feel anything
August 13, 2018 at 9:54 am #221325AnonymousGuestDear Jay:
You should do what is better for you and your kids. Not what is better for him. As a mother your number one responsibility is to do what is best for your children. And it is best for your children to have a calm mother who is sensible and can take care of them.
Your boyfriend is important too, his well being is important as well, but your job is to attend to the well being of your children before attending to his well being.
So my answer to what you should do is to stay where you are because you wrote: “I see better opportunities since I moved and I only been gone a day”. So stay where you see better opportunities and explore those opportunities.
If you want to share what those opportunities are, and how they will make the lives of your children and you better (and anything else), please do. I would like to read more from you and reply.
anita
August 13, 2018 at 11:25 pm #221383PrashParticipantDear Jay,
This is probably a time for you to step back and see what is in this relationship for you.
What is not working is the ways in which you have described how you feel about the situation
- he was barely there he was lazy
- I didn’t feel like he helped enough
- We got into a couple physical fights.
- He don’t trust me he forever think I’m messing around I don’t trust him
- But overtime I’ve been tired of not doing anything no communication sitting in silence.
- I asked him to pay the rent bill he swore up and down he forgotten
- I’m tired of the same ol in the city I moved from I’m ready for new things
You are in two minds because of what had gone well and the feelings you still have for him
- Over all he is a good guy he helps with the kids.
- He keeps me laughing the sex is still perfect.
- I love him we been through EVERYTHING together. Everything.
- I hate to see him cry and beg but for some reason I can’t cry I don’t feel anything
When you are coming out of a disturbing environment new opportunities seem alluring but take your time and do what is best for you.
Take care
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