realizing how truly alone i am after accident

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April 9, 2015 at 7:10 pm #75140

Megan
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i am right handed but typing this with left hand after dislocating right thumb falling down the stairs. have cast on.

i am struggling obviosly being one handed not used to using left hand.

anyway…everthing is a struggle and i feel very alone. its hard to eat, change clothes, havent tried to bathe yet, etc

i always go out of my way for friends because thats the type of friend i am.

disappo8nted by friends that have not even asked if i need anything or to offer help cause yes i could use a hand…a right hand lol

i guess reality stings. when i am healed i will not over extend to others so lesson learned from this tradgedic accident. thats good to live and learn.

i just feel the sting of the realization that i really dont have good loving caring true friends around me.

makes me sad.

yes i will b my own best friend. but it sure does sting to realize im so alone in the world ya know when the chips r down

so im sad and disappointed with this realization…time to get some new and true friends when i am healed

thx for listening and reading my left handed typing xo

i seek courage and strength

April 10, 2015 at 4:57 am #75144

Inky
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Hi Megan,

When you (general you) say, “Oh, I dislocated my thumb, can only use my left hand”, most people will be all, “Oh, that sux, you poor thing!” but will not have an overwhelming instinct to ask if they could help. They don’t “get” that not functioning without a thumb/hand could be as debilitating as being on crutches.

Now, if you had (God forbid) cancer or were in the hospital, you bet people, some you don’t even think about, would suddenly manifest and ask if they could help.

On the other hand, are you all, “Oh, can I help?” before someone else thinks to ask? That’s good nature and good breeding.

I guess I’m saying that people are clueless and to accept your friends where they are.

You could call some and say (with no hint of guilt tripping), “Hey, I’m having trouble. Do you mind picking up something for me when you go to the store? Great! When? Thank you!!”

April 10, 2015 at 8:29 am #75151

Rock Banana
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Ask them. People are not mind readers.

April 10, 2015 at 11:50 am #75154

Ro
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I agree – ask your friends outright for the help you need. If one can’t assist, try not to take it personally – just ask someone else.

April 12, 2015 at 2:59 pm #75205

jade green
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You know how they always say— do good to others and not expect anything back?
That’s exactly how we should live. Not because expecting things back makes you a bad person but because expecting something back from others will only lead to disappointment.

there’s also a saying that ultimately, in this world, you are alone. No matter how many friends you’ve got, in the end, you are an individual and you live your life alone. I know many don’t agree, but I take this principle of life very seriously. Because no matter how close you are to another person, you’re always you and two people logically cannot become one.

and to dislocate a thumb, not much people would actually understand the inconvenience that came with it. We all take the fact that we have thumbs for granted. We never understood how useful it is to have an opposing thumb to function. Well now we all do.

I hope you get better soon. Don’t be too sad about the fact that you friends didn’t cared as much as you wanted them to. It always happens, when we expect them to care.

Jade
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