It was totally wrong how me & my partner got together because he was married, all be it very unhappily. He has now been living away from the marital home for 5 years and we have been together for 6. He still feels immense guilt for what he did to the children. They’re now divorced. But his ex wife is constantly using the children. It is like she genuinely loses the plot sometimes and it’s absolutely crazy. Then it’ll calm down again. I know this really gets to him a lot. This combined with his busy work life sometimes means he goes into a world of worry and shuts down. As he lives 30 mins away. I go into this stupid crazy irrational panic somehow convincing myself that he no longer loves me, no longer wants to be with me etc etc and then my mind of spirals out of control.
How can I stop doing this? I’m sending myself mad with worry. I don’t say too much to him because I feel like I’m just adding to his problems.