Hey all, I’ve been reading TinyBuddha now for a week or so and it’s been absolutely amazing, I’m so glad you’re all here.

I’m currently 6 months into a relationship breakup, it was a 4-year (in and out) relationship, that we were both trying to make work really badly but eventually always realising we were a round peg and a square hole. We both had a connection with each other that each time we’d break up would bring us back together again, but that connection wasn’t enough to sustain the relationship as a whole, so after I tried to live with him back at the beginning of the year and only managing 4 months, I decided if that didn’t work, we really would need to separate for good.

I moved out, and have done the anger and am now onto the forgiveness, accepting myself and bereavement stage – which is definitely the hard part for me. I hadn’t realised how strong that connection was between but I’ve spent a week off work practicing yoga again, learning some new techniques (thanks to your website) about acceptance and learning to love myself and let go which I’ll continue to do, but although he’s with someone else now, he’s not letting go himself and he’s contacting me, not excessively but knowing that we have to move on, and that we shouldn’t be contacting each other, I’m not sure how to handle it – I know how he’s feeling so I don’t want to be nasty or aggressive but I have to think of myself and I’m struggling. Anyone have any ideas how I can do it as humanely as possible, without compromising all the hard work I’ve done ?

Thanks Ya’ll x