I have a few issues I am working on and trying to sort out for myself. I seem to always sabotage my efforts towards things I really want….or goals I want to accomplish. For instance, I really want to start a blog, every time I scheduled a photographer to help me, I would chicken out last minute and cancel. I don’t know WHY I do this! I inevitably regret it shortly.
As well, I recently messaged a guy I was interested in, he wrote right back, but I was too scared to log in and reply. This weighed heavy on my heart as I knew I was sabotaging myself.
I check in my ex’s social media accounts although he has moved on, and the pattern seems to be I don’t really love myself. Help! Any insight anyone??
When we are adults we don’t have a safety net of parental/caring figures looking after us. It’s worse when we’ve NEVER had that feeling of safety. I think the core issue is you need to feel safe. You are actually loving yourself by protecting yourself, misguided as it is. Even checking the ex’s social media is safe because there’s comfort in the habitual.