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  • September 8, 2016 at 3:08 pm #114675
    R
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    Hey there!

    I wanted to discuss a topic that has been concerning me for the last couple weeks. Let me first tell you something about me. I’m a mid-twenties single man, educated and employed, fit and healthy. No big problems in life.

    So in general I am a happy person, feeling confident about myself and satisfied with the circumstances I live in. But within the last couple months I have realised that I’m experiencing some emotional stress level that never really disappears. It’s always part of my everyday life. And because I’ve never really understood where this stress comes from I have found other ways to deal with it – smoking cigarettes excessively (and lots of pot when I was younger), over-doing alcohol and other drugs, over-eating and having lots of sex with diffrent partners. I keep switching constantly my emotional outlet. The problem: I don’t really see the issue behind – wouldn’t even know what it could be.

    I’ve been in therapies before and all I kept discussing was my childhood which of course isn’t a storybook childhood (my parents divorced when I was 13 and altough I still speak to both I feel very estranged to them) but to be honest – I can’t weep about my childhood. There was no abuse, no domestic violence and I didn’t grow up poor. I had opportunites. So I don’t really know where else I could be digging…

    Can I find the cause of my bad habits? How would you reveal the root of your bad energy?

    Best Regards,
    Jagath

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    September 8, 2016 at 6:11 pm #114687
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    Dear Jagath:

    You wrote: “There was no abuse, no domestic violence and I didn’t grow up poor. I had opportunites. So I don’t really know where else I could be digging…”

    When you are a young child, you know nothing of terms like “abuse” and “domestic violence” and unless you are hungry and cold, you don’t know much about what “poor” means. It is later you hear and read about those terms.

    When you are a young child, all you are is a developing brain and body dependent on your parents. Like other mammals you are intensely attached to your parents, particularly the one who handles you most. It is this emotional attachment that motivated the fawn, young deer, to follow its mother into the woods, because following her means food and protection, that is, survival.

    You wrote in your post above: “I feel very estranged to them (your parents)”-

    What happened between the time you were intensely attached to your parents, emotionally, reaching all out for their love, approval, guidance- and the time you are “very estranged”-

    I think this is where the digging may unearth the answers you are looking for.

    anita

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