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    Kiera
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    I’ve been in college for about 2 years now. I never really wanted to go to this school. To be honest, I only went here to keep up appearances and have felt pressure to stay in school (externally and internally). I have barely made it through academically, I’ve slacked but I just do not feel any motivation or desire to follow through. I have slowly figured out my dream and it really has nothing to do with school. I am not knocking it because learning is so important and I hope someday my desire to learn and be a dedicated student can be replenished. The reason though I’ve lost interest is cause I have let external things control my happiness. My disappointment of not being able to go to a school I set my heart on, unfriendly people, professors who don’t love their job, and close minded friends I thought I’d be friends with, and financial reasons, have collectively been the cause of my major dislike of school. I realize that to get a first job and to be even considered to for almost any position you need an Associates or Bachelors but, I just can’t do school anymore, I have absolutely no motivation to. I know college drop-outs are looked at in a negative light, I realize that. I guess the only good reason for being in school is getting work experience as a Work-Study student (it’s my first ‘legit’ job I need a year of experience). I feel like thats the only reason I’m still in school and thats not a good. Obviously, its not the reason I should stay in school (I am down the road going to have to pay back the loans no matter what). Long story short, I feel like I’m wasting life taking classes I can’t even get through and connect with. I would love to hear what you guys think. I never really talked to anyone about how depressing each of these things have made me. I don’t know how I am going to get through this semester it scares me just thinking about it. I want to start committing myself to my dream not feeling like I’m wasting precious moments doing hundreds of algebra problems (literally). I’ve realized how important living in the moment is so sitting in class for hours or doing homework kills me. I would rather be practicing my Hip Hop routines and working on technique 3 hours straight than sitting in class because it fills me with purpose and makes me feel something. Thoughts?

    #50231
    Rachel
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    Hi Kiera, I would suggest hanging in there at least until you finish your Associate’s degree. If you really cannot bare it go do what you want to do but realize you may regret not sticking it out after a couple of years. Reality is unless you are an entrepreneur, you need a college education to make you stand out and also to make you a more well rounded person. You will be stuck making minimum wage or at most $12-$!5 an hour unless you start your own business in the beginning. If you struggle with your coursework the school has tutoring available. You arleady know everything I’ve told you so in the end you have to follow your instinct and say “I will face what I really want with all of the consequences”. And one great thing is if you want to you can always go back to school. Just make sure you have a way to pay your student loans on time every month.

    #52422
    Jen
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    First of all I commend you for having the foresight to realize where your passions are. I was in the same situation as you but my situation ended because I ran out of money and could not continue down (once I think about it) an empty and unfulfilled career. While I agree with Rachel, my prospective is a little different. I have seen and known people who have went to school for 3-6 years, obtaining degrees in fields they thought was what they wanted just to graduate with huge college debt and the desire to not even work or seek employment in their field of study. Many have actually gone back to school for the degree they wanted, all the while incuring more debt. They may be happy but broke, lol. Those who decided to continue on with their degree (for the sake of money) end up bitter and asking themselves “What if I would have followed my passion the first time?”. Ultimately you have to make the decision to either tough it out or cut your loses because in the end you are the one who have to face the consequences. Just make sure it is the right choice you can live with and accept.

    #52444
    Amy
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    I have a Bachelor’s Degree and I can’t say it has ever helped me find a job. I wasted 4 years of my life going to college because that’s what you’re supposed to do. Employers care much more about work experience then a degree. Unless you’re absolutely sure you’re working towards a degree you want you’re wasting your money and time. Chances are you’ll end up going down another path that will make that degree pointless.

    #52694
    nick
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    im 26, and still working on the self belief and confidence inside, to trust my own decisions, thoughts, and instincts.

    whatever you decide, realising for yourself that you are not happy, why you feel that way, and that something needs to change is awesome.

    dont think too too much, go with how you feel.

    ive listened to everyone, feared my own decisions and instinct, not gone with my heart enough, way too many times. all i created is regret, or a larger problem within my own self/mind.

    this is my experience however, not everyones, albeit if i had had the courage to go and get what i want, when i want, and not fear my own imagination of possible outcomes whether good or bad, i really wish i had done.

    this is even down to not trusting myself on a horse racing bet, then the horse wins ;/ which has happened a lot.

    hope this helps.

    p.s. i had a private secondary education in the UK at 18,000 pounds a year, i have very good academic qualifications, this hasnt had any impact on my current level of happiness in my life lol 😛

    #52697
    Jade
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    As Amy said, unless you are looking for a job in a professional or specialized field, no one really cares about your degree, employers are far more concerned with work experience, whether you’re a team player/people person, etc.

    It’s thrilling to hear that you have already found something you’re so passionate about at such a young age! I actually have a few friends who dropped out of college for various reasons (not really into school, mental health issues, found a job they wanted to pursue instead) and none of them regret the decision. If you do decide to quit school, I’d suggest you only do so if you have a concrete and specific plan for making your dream a reality. Will you get a “pay the bills” job on the side to fund your creative efforts? Will you try to find a job in the creative field you like? What goals do you hope to meet in the next 2, 5, or 10 years, and what will you do to get there?

    Whatever you choose, good luck!

    #52714
    Adam
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    I have two associates, a B.A. with a concentration and they mean absolutely nothing. Having switched majors halfway through because I was really unhappy with what I was doing, it took me much longer than everyone around me to finish. I wasted so many years in school because I listened to everyone telling me that I had to do it and that it’s almost a necessity now for a ‘career’. It caused a lot of harm to me in the end because it never did anything but make me feel that I’m too dumb to succeed in life and that I’m so inferior to everyone around me. Looking for work afterwards made me feel even worse because all I can get are jobs that I could have had straight out of high school. Even my current employer said in the interview that I’m over-educated and over-qualified for the position.

    My advise to you, and something I really wish I had done, is to listen to yourself (which I know sounds much easier than it actually is). If you’re interested in something else, look into a certificate where you can get more involved with that. Try things out, and see where things go. If you decide you may want/need an academic credential to go after what you want to do, you can always go back to school; there’s no age limit.

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