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September 11, 2013 at 9:17 pm #42090splendourParticipant
How do I get better at being self-disciplined?
It’s something I’d really like to improve in my life.
e.g. If I’d really like to take some clients out for lunch, I just go ahead and do it, regardless of the fact that I really should be saving my money instead of spending it. I’m just way too impulsive. I don’t stop and think “gosh, I am meant to be saving for ____, so I won’t take them out for lunch afterall”.
e.g. If I’m craving chilli nachos, I tend to just go ahead and eat it, even thought I’ve made the decision to eat healthy earlier in the week (plus I know it’s bad for me).
How do I develop will power and in particular the skill of self discipline?
September 12, 2013 at 5:15 am #42101JohnParticipantHere’s something that might get you on the right path:
I like the book because it all starts with meditation and becoming familiar with the tricks that your mind plays on you and how the reptilian part of your brain thwarts you from achieving your higher functioning neo-cortex identified goals.
Enjoy! 🙂
September 12, 2013 at 6:53 am #42108JadeParticipantThis is a great topic, I also wish I could cultivate better self-discipline. Unlike you, splendour, my problem isn’t impulsiveness but avoidance/procrastination. There’s so much I want to do with my life but end up thinking and planning about all these things and never actually do anything or taking action.
September 12, 2013 at 7:32 am #42109LizParticipantOne way of looking at it is to remind yourself that you are in charge of your own brain, your own thoughts, and your own actions. You actually have the power to choose what you do.
It’s easy to feel that you are powerless to resist the temptation of the client dinner, or the plate of nachos. But if you assume the role of the powerless being, then you’re removing your power to choose what you really want to do.
Try this:
Each time you’re faced with the choice of taking clients out for lunch vs saving the money towards something else you want, treat it that way. It is a choice. Stop yourself for a moment before you decide. Ask yourself, as objectively as you can, what you really want to do. If you do go ahead and have the lunch, then make sure that’s a conscious decision you’re behind 100%. Don’t feel bad about it afterwards. But if, when faced with that decision, you realise that actually, it would be great to put that money towards the thing you’re saving up for, and that would make you feel good, then make that choice instead.Make your choices and your decisions more conscious. You have control – use it!
When you make the good choices (whatever they may be), you’ll feel great about them – and you’ll hopefully set yourself up in a positive feedback loop. You’ll remember the good feeling you had afterwards, and you’ll want to replicate that.
You aren’t a slave to these temptations.
September 12, 2013 at 2:21 pm #42159KinnyParticipantI’ve been listening to Bryan Tracey’s “Eat That Frog” book. He has a lot of great suggestions on thought work which have helped me tremendously. I’m pretty sure I found it on YouTube first and then I found it on audible.com.
September 13, 2013 at 8:39 am #42184Rhonda PfeilParticipantI’ve found that self-discipline is more of a habit for me.
I’m impulsive and scattered. I start one project and drift off into many others along the way. Discipline for me came in very small steps. I decided I was going to walk every morning for 30 minutes (before I did anything else) because if I said I would walk today I might not remember to walk until I was getting ready for bed. Walking became a habit and then I began building on that habit. Whatever was a must do followed walking. If I only walk for 15 minutes one day I’m okay with that as long as I maintain the discipline of walking.
Sometimes I got caught up in where I lacked in discipline and focused on how I didn’t achieve that particular disciplined activity. Now I focus on what I did achieve instead of the mini “failures”.
Maybe you could make one day a week (or every other week) the ONLY DAY you will take clients to lunch. This sets your mind up for a permanent event. The event may work with eating healthy too, if you set up one day a week to splurge on delicious less healthy stuff – for me it’s Totino’s pizza rolls 🙂
September 15, 2013 at 3:02 pm #42279JohnParticipant🙂
September 17, 2013 at 6:37 am #42344RavichandarParticipantI suggest you visit: idhayakalvi.blogspot.in where you find good many suggestion
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