Hi All,

I can’t believe I’m writing this.  I really can’t but I need some advice….

So, I have a friend who I met through work. I’ve known her for over 2 years now and we are best mates. In the past few months she introduced me to a group of friends she has in her city. They are okay. They like partying alot.

Through that group I met a guy.  He’s younger than me. I’m 27 and he’s 20. He plays basketball, and is quite outgoing, confident and we were getting on really well. We admitted to each other that we thought each other was cute etc. He’s kind of emo, kind of chavvy, and actually quite a bit immature.

Over the past few weeks we’ve been hanging out alot. And he’s been really sweet. I think it’s been obvious that he’s been falling for me – He’s been staring at me lots, spent hours going through my braids and sorting out each one and generally telling me he likes me ALL the time. We get on really really well and there’s a definite connection between us.

HOWEVER.

I can’t remember how it came about. But one time we were out socialising with his friends and he briefly mentioned how he “fucked a dog” – No, I’m really not kidding!! At the time I thought it was just some reallllllly stupid immature joke and let it slide – as with me he can be really mature, quite middle class and well-spoken etc.

We were hanging out at the weekend, and I can’t remember how but the topic came up again and I asked him if it was true. It felt like he was lying – god knows why??? But anyway, he said that his step mum really fucked him up when he was living with his Dad and that she accused him of sleeping with the dogs. He said that he was a really fucked up kid (he was 15 at this point) and that they messed him up so badly that he went to actually sleep with the dog :O

I was horrified, and demanded to know details. He basically said that the dog went up to him and mounted him for about 30 seconds and then he instantly regretted it and left….

I’m in absolute shock.

What kind of guy does this?? Or tells people this??

I had to walk through town with him after this and I couldn’t hold his hand or anything. I said it seriously wasn’t cool and it was seriously fucked up. I’m a good person so I didn’t want to make him feel super bad.

Over the weekend I messaged him exactly how I felt, as I’m a massive animal lover and moralistic person and just absolutely mortified. He apologised, and said he was a messed up kid and that he’s grown as a person.

I got drunk with my friend on Saturday and she called him from my phone and asked him about it. He was willing to talk to her, and basically said the same story about his step-mum. And that he knew it was wrong, and that he’s grown as a person.

He spoke to her about it for 10 minutes. But I still find it absolutely mortifying.

I’m not really speaking to him now as I said how I felt about it and that I needed alot of space. Although he sent me a song earlier this morning….

So fucking weird.

I really don’t know what to make of it all, as to me he’s been an incredibly sweet, loving person. But this??
Is this even forgivable??????

I’m really hoping this is a really immature stupid lie that he made up at the time and is trying not to go back on??

Super freaked out.