Dear Roth,

You can’t be more right to want to live your life the way you want to.   However, in order for you to pursue your dream, it seems like  you will have to earn it.  If it comes down to dollars and cents, you may be able to  save faster by spending less or lower your standard of living…there is a cost to freedom.  From what you have said it seems like your father will not let you live there and have your freedom.

It is a big step to forego financial security for your dream.  Good luck to you.

I’ve been where you have been…..your Dad only want the best for you. However his advise is making you unhappy. They also grew up in a different era and he thinks his way is less risk.

if you can’t go against your dad as clearly you are not ready to and it’s in the culture… then do both. continue the government job AND work hard on the side to pursue your dream in your spare time until you build enough courage to take the leap. Start small. Do what’s needed. Work at your lunch break on your business if you have to. You will be happier at work as you will always be thinking of your business and ways to take action.Think positive. You don’t need to quit your job to have a business..you can start out small and then Every day will get more confidence and courage that one day you may have saved enough to move out with a double income…with age parents tend to mellow out and sorrt to say he will not be around forever…so start now and when you have more courage you will make the leap.

I have faith that you will make the right decision for you.

Hi Roth!

I think you should consider what’s feasable to you. Definetly follow your dreams! But have a plan to get to your dreams!

It seems part of that plan may be to sustain yourself without your dad. Look into ways to get enough money. Perhaps you can start your business concurrently with your government job just until you can earn enough money to rent a place. If your business does really well, you may even be able to convince your dad that your business is a better path for you.

You should not think of your dad as a “bad person” or the “authorative figure that cannot be reasoned with”. You are his daughter so I am sure he cares deeply about your dreams and future. This is probably why he is so adamant that you do the government job. It is a secure and stable job for your future.

Try to understand why your Dad wants you to have that government job. If it’s because he believes you will be able to support your family better with a government job, then work hard to convince him that running a business can also satisfy that need.

It seems you’ve made up your mind about having your own business instead of working a government job as your end goal. Look for ways to get your Dad’s support on this. But time is also a factor. And if you are running out of time and options, then unfortunately you may have to go even without your dad’s approval.

I’m in a similar situation where my dreams are doubted by people I care about. But I suppose at least I’m in a position where I can keep working on my dream even without their involvement lol. It’s nice to be in that position, and I think you should strive for that too.

I hope this information helps. I wish you all the best Roth.

Regards,