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December 22, 2016 at 2:11 pm #123332Charlie BlakeParticipant
My Relationship History is making me depressed and I think I should just give up on going out with people, but it’s very small so I’m also thinking I should reconsider.
Me and my first girlfriend were very happy together, but we sort of drifted apart and eventually broke up. My second and last girlfriend were also very happy together, but she broke up with me because I wasn’t spending very much time with her, and recently I had a crush on this girl, she knew about it but didn’t do anything about it but then I eventually found out she was going out with someone else. The only reason I thought she was avalable was because her instagram page said she was single. I think this is just bad luck and I should probably end my adventure before something horrible happens.
What should I do?
December 22, 2016 at 2:29 pm #123333Kelsey NeighborsParticipantDefinitely not my friend! Your journey has just begun… I truly believe you will find someone who is compatible and you can grow with… it just takes time.
In the mean time… focus on yourself. I know it may sound cliche, but you do need to love yourself first in order to form a healthy relationship. Find a new hobby, hangout with friends, read a new book, go out and meet people, listen to music… listen to your thoughts and focus on why you are wanting a partner so badly… you may be lacking something within yourself that you need to further look into. Perhaps try to be full alone rather than trying to have another individual fill the ‘void’.
I believe in you and know that you are worthy of the best kind of love. I believe you are strong for repeating these similar relationships in order to further search for a companion.
Good luck and please keep me updated with your feelings! Remember to always release your emotions instead of suppressing.
December 23, 2016 at 9:48 am #123374Adam PParticipantExcellent response kdizzle,
Exactly what kdizzle said helping hand. It’s funny, your username is helping hand so it looks as if now is the time to help yourself. You may not know it now, but in my case, rejection has truly been projection. This in turn allows you to focus on yourself and work on your inner self so that you will become much more attractive not just for yourself, but for others around you. What also helps is stepping out of your comfort zone. Do something that scares you. Your future self will greatly thank you.
Thank You and Take Care
-AP85December 24, 2016 at 8:49 am #123464Crisula ChristakosParticipantHelpinghand
Nooo..you don’t give up!
It happens to all of us..
We’re in wonderful relationships, but we outgrow one another.
We love somebody; it hurts like hell, but they don’t feel the same way.
We fall in love.. it just doesn’t work out… nobody’s fault.
We fall in love…it just doesn’t work out…it IS somebody’s fault.
We fall in love, but painfully realize that they’re not ‘the one’.
We fall in love, but our partner painfully realizes that we’re not ‘the one’.Life is a learning experience. Cherish each relationship, whether good or not so good. If you were most definitely the direct cause of a break up…work on changing your behavior… don’t beat yourself up. Be grateful that the relationship brought this issue to your attention; hopefully, then, you won’t be repeating the same mistake over and over again; or attracting the same type of person, over and over again.
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. – Albert Einstein
Don’t continuously question yourself…”what went wrong…was it me or her?” and “what could I have done differently?” or “If that hadn’t of happened, we would still be together?”
No matter how much time we spend wearing ourselves out and replaying it in our mind; nothing changes the fact that it sadly didn’t work out. If a relationship is worth saving, meant to be, and can be mended..wonderful. But both have to put in the effort… not just one of you.
Stay out there and enjoy your life.. NEVER go out there and ‘look’ for love; but allow yourself to be open and available to relationships that seem the right ‘fit’.
You’re not abnormal or unique, helpinghand…. the right one just hasn’t come along yet.. hang in there and she will.
‘Tis better to have loved and lost… than never to have loved at all. – Tennyson.
Crisula
December 27, 2016 at 2:53 am #123667MandyParticipantForgive my assumption, but I think you are very young. ‘Should I Give up?’ Very hard on yourself, but perhaps just be realistic. People are like a bucket of slippery frogs at times. Everybody experiences ups and downs, including the people who have let you down. Brush yourself off and get back in the saddle.
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