Hey Rhirhi,

This is kind of ironic but Im in something similar myself. Not too similar but I have the urge to travel and met up with a girl from another state who I think is awesome but its complicated. Shes great and although we havent seen much of each other, I want to fly her to where I live so we can hang out. I even considered moving there, its something my gut is telling me. Anywho, Ive only known this girl for a year but only have seen her for two full weekends so completely different scenario. I am traveling everywhere this summer as well. Was thinking to see how things went after that to explore my options. ANYWHO….

I dont know how it feels to be with someone for that long. Heck my longest relationship was 5 months so I commend you for having such a long relationship. Having said that, youre young. Im 22 and all Ive done is dedicate myself to school. I mean i now know my future will be bright but I also didnt have much of a love life, its something I probably missed out on. And Ive worked hard for 9 straight years at school so I told myself its ME time. I got a good career because I wanted to travel and this summer Im going to Brazil for the world cup. Ive saved up for it since I was 16. I think you definitely want to travel. The thing is you dont know if your boyfriend will be there when you come back… If he is the good guy I think he is, he will wait. But as a guy, that sucks. Trust me I know. It seems like hes pinned down cuz of his job… and thats the same reason why i havent llooked for a legit job even though this is my last semester at school. Once u start working, ur gonna work for the rest of ur life.. As for the money, I understand. Ive saved a lot since I was 16… and my dream is about to come true!!But theres good news! Ive heard of programs where u teach english in a foreign country and you get paid to do it. I think rent is included! So the rest is spending money and travel money! its not much but since ur already in Europe (in this case Spain) then u can explore. U can never put too high of a price on traveling! Talk to him and most importantly listen to your heart and envision your world w/o him and with him. Hope I helped a little, I kind of ranted on my own little dilemma 🙂

Megyn,

Very sound and powerful advice! :]

Hey,I believe you should choose the path that will allow the room for most growth. I have read a lot of relationship advice in the more recent past and it all boils down to one or two key points is that nobody else can make you happy so if you are happy with moving on then go for it but you must understand that this continuous coming back and forth to the relationship signifies that just maybe the relationship is truly not either of you are content with. if both of you decide to do the work to bring that relationship to the next level, maybe the relationship will become more steady. another piece of advice i shall give you which is coming from the bottom of my heart is sometimes moving on is the best solution- it is hard in the beginning, i understand by the time being single and on your own may just allow you to gain some more clarity with regard to what you want – maybe you really don’t want a relationship right now for example and maybe other epiphanies will come your way. maybe, don’t completely break up but give yourself and the relationship a break. and during this break, if you still want to go back to the relationship with this particular person then go for it but i would suggest a little introspection that you must carry out your own with regard to what you want from life and what you want from your relationships. i hope this helps and i don’t mean to be condescending in any way but just giving the best advice that my soul can give.anyways, i hope you make the decision that will have the most positive impact on your life.