I had a boyfriend that’s very nice, and I like him quite a bit. He’s somewhat immature, by that, I meant that he cannot understand my feelings (although that this is not a big problem as we don’t share the same brain but I could understand most of his), he cannot deal with the problems his friends have with me nor does he care (despite that it doesn’t matter too much but I always try to make my friends like him) and he doesn’t bring sunscreen (he get sunburn easily) or water or bug spray when going outside (I always bring some for him) or money while going to the restaurant. These are just minor problems if they can be considered as problems at all, but they began to pile up and I just found that I cannot really endure all these lately. I got mad at him for the first time and I couldn’t control my temper that well, so I just told him that I was okay but I would like a quiet moment alone for a while to calm down and think about the problem after I yelled at him for a sentence.

He look up to me in our relationship, and he always asks me for my advice. After I kept asking and told him that it’s okay to tell me and promised that I won’t be angry because he was saying that he’s bad because these things that he do, he admitted that he watched a lot of porn and he has fantasied about some of the other girls that we both know. I was surprised as I’d never think him as being someone who does these things. Despite that I immediately comforted him and told him that it was okay and I’m happy that he told me and I still like him, this fact still bothered me a slightly, and I wasn’t sure how should I deal with this problem.

Most of all, I don’t feel that he likes me sometimes. He occasionally seems that he does, but sometimes he seems like that he doesn’t. He always says that he likes me so much, but I wasn’t sure if that’s true. He’s more willing to hang out with his friends (it’s a personal choice but I do the opposite for him) Should I just focus more on my friends also?

All in all, I feel sad about not receiving too much, especially that it’s dangerous for me to give a lot more and I’m afraid that I’m losing myself.

I don’t see how I still like him and why I like him, I’ve always wanted a boyfriend that’s mature and can give me advice instead of someone who does the opposite. I still try to improve our communication (which I’d say that the disruptions are on my part), I still attempt to make our relationship more enjoyable for both of us and I still want to go out with him very much despite all of my dissatisfaction toward him (How is this so? ). I enjoyed going out with him. But I cannot be as happy as I used to be about our relationship recently. Any advice?