Hi guys,

Hoping I can get some insight on my situation. I met someone online back in October 2017 – due to travel on both sides we did not actually meet in person until mid November. Things seemed to be going very well, he too was looking to get into a relationship and our conversations where great! until i start to catch him in little lies,  I did not approach him with this at the time, perhaps out of fear?  He had mentioned that for the holidays his close friends stay at his place which I found great as he wouldn’t be alone. Where this starts to get uncomfortable for me is on December 23rd I am made aware that his ex wife was in town and is the one who is staying at his place with him and no one else. This was told to me by a friend of mine who just so happens to know the ex (same industry). Being the holidays I decided not to bring it up plus he was not available, Dec 27th we meet and he confirms this was the case and that they are just friends. I decided to believe him as I have an ex (daughters father) who I am on friendly terms with only difference is we don’t sleep over each others homes.  I didnt see much of him for a bit as he always seemed to be going away for the weekend or just had something else going on (he only had 1 day a week to see me). This made me feel as though the relationship had taken a turn so I focused on myself/friends/family etc  then he would reappear and things between us seemed normal again. Until he decides to tell me he isn’t ready for a relationsip – I am not going to lie this upset me as it contradicted what he said in the beginning. I gave myself  space and did my own thing.   He seemed to contact me more and more and want to hang out when I did this. His birthday was in January and decided to take him out to celebrate we had a wonderful time where he proceeds to tell me that he doesn’t ever want to be dishonest with me again and that he will do everything to make sure I am happy and kept in the loop and most importantly he wanted to introduce me to his friends! (things I’d brought up prior). A few days after this he informs me that he is taking a trip – Great! I said let me know when you are leaving. He didnt he just left and 1 week later I find out via him that he the ex wife and a few of her friends where in Peru. I asked him why he never told me or called me? he said he’d dropped his phone on the toilet and had no way of communication, but he may of forgotten mentioning how he’d been in touch with his friends back home while in Peru. I walked away from him after he revealed his get away with the ex – and this is where I am confused. Now he tells me everything and I mean everything – where he is going/ who he is with etc I don’t ask he just does this, claiming he is ready to be authentic with me. I’ve still not met one single friend of his, when I ask he says soon. I can see some change in the relationship, but my problem is I’m so confused. He says he cares about me alot and wants me in his life forever but  is in a place where he isn’t ready for a relationship.  Why act like we are in one in private? I am not so sure I can get over the lies in the beginning either.  any advice/tips suggestions would be greatly appreciated <3