Dear Q:

What you say makes sense. I think that you have a very good understanding of your internal and external situation.

By internal situation, I mean your thoughts (the “rationally part of me”) and emotions, the emotional part of you.

“I had a moment today at work where I was overwhelmed by so many of these thoughts and thoughts of the finality of the break up. I had to step out of the office to let my emotions take its course. It was a very unpleasant experience and I feel like I’ve been set back in my progress.”-

What can be useful is the concept of Radical Acceptance not only in regard to situations you cannot change, but also in regard to your emotions. When you feel hurt or sadness or fear in regard to the breakup, do you try to resist the emotion, like in holding your breath, trying to push the emotion down (to suppress it)?

Or distract from the emotion by thinking and thinking..?

I used to do the above a whole lot and am learning these very days to give my emotions space to be, that is, to free them from being caught in 2- dimensions.. giving them the 3rd dimension, so to speak.

Does this make sense to you..?

🤍🌿 Anita