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  • February 15, 2014 at 6:21 pm #51075
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    It’s Sunday morning here and I woke up with a headache and slept with a headache. Medicine gave up to work…I’m not able to stop thinking about my ex-lesbian partner especially since she sent a mail on Valentine’s Day just saying ‘Happy Valentine’s Day! Thank You’.

    This mail has made me miss her like anything and this weekend has been headache a fight with myself to not think about her. I feel the moments I miss her, the times we had together. After this, I don’t know what’s happening with me. All negative thoughts from the past are haunting me even in my dreams. It’s getting difficult to move forward unless it’s a weekday.

    Weekends are becoming like this as I’m alone at home. I try to watch tv as much as possible. But subconsciously I’m thinking about her. I went through all sorts of feelings this weekend. Terrible it was!

    Please help! I have tried reading posts, talk to family, watch tv, nothing seems to be working. I’m afraid to be vulnerable and weak.

    February 15, 2014 at 6:49 pm #51077
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    I have blocked her calls and messages; but mails is something that cannot be blocked. Somewhere I feel she sent mail to disturb my mind; and that’s exactly what happened. She knows I’m weak at this phase of my life, probably that’s why she is being polite saying Thanks; so that I fall for her again?

    I believe in being serious in a relationship; but on her side; she has always been a personality who likes to flirt, fascinate girls and make them fall for her. This gives boost to her ego. She had done the same with me but at that time I was weak for my 4 yrs relation and a marriage was breaking. Now that I’m over it, I realize I don’t wanna make the wrong choice again, and fall for someone who has been a flirt in her whole life. It hurts and makes me cry as I write this,,,,,why do some people play with a person’s heart and feelings? Is a flirt more than a serious and life-time relationship?

    God! Please take me out of this place. Far from these people……….

    February 16, 2014 at 6:58 pm #51129
    @Jasmine-3
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    Hi Anyone

    Sending you loads of positive wishes and hoping that you are over your headache / Heartache.

    Just a thought: no one has the capacity to play with your mind or feelings. This choice is in your hands only. Just in the same way, no one can force you to eat a certain food that you dislike or wear a certain piece of clothing you despise etc. Our mind is a powerful tool. We can either use it to think negatively or positively as long as you remember that like attracts like at an Universal consciousness level. So if you think negative, you attract more of the same and vice versa.

    Go and listen to some nice music or ring up a good mate and remember the good things that have happened in life. Create some happy memories. Be kind to yourself, pls !!

    Cheers

    J

    February 16, 2014 at 9:47 pm #51152
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    Hi Jasmine.

    Noted your words 🙂

    Thank you 🙂

    February 16, 2014 at 10:16 pm #51155
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    Just to add and share: I blocked and put a spam on her mails; felt guilty doing it but can’t afford the non-stop headache anymore!

    February 17, 2014 at 1:32 am #51162
    @Jasmine-3
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    🙂
    Thats one strategy, which will work temporarily in this situation.
    Why dont you take this opportunity to develop a spam filter for your mind so that in future, none of the undesirable situations create any headaches for you ? Become in control and tell yourself how special and awesome you are everyday.
    Cheers
    J

    February 19, 2014 at 10:01 am #51347
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    With each day passing, and with God’s grace I feel I’m getting stronger.

    She tried calling me last night, and I turned off my phone and slept quietly. Unlike other times where I would think endlessly. Realized it was for nothing.

    She sent mails, with some love songs and videos, I could beat my emotional (crazy) radar and slept even peacefully. Deleted in morning; and didn’t let my day be disturbed.

    These small improvements feels like a great achievement; esp. when we are vulnerable. Isn’t it?

    Cheers!

    February 19, 2014 at 8:19 pm #51414
    @Jasmine-3
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    Excellento. God bless you !!

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