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  • #442742
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    I hope you had a good weekend.

    I had a good weekend celebrating my partners birthday this weekend and have been back to work today.

    I think I will consider a life/career coach of some sort as talking about this more freely will likely help me. I will continue with my gratitude, exercise and calm app to try and manage through this period the best I can while I figure things out longer term.

    #442747
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    Thank you! Good to read that you had a good weekend celebrating your partner’s birthday, and I’m glad to read that you’re exploring options for support like a life/career coach. I think that it could be very beneficial for you.

    It’s great that you’re continuing with your gratitude, exercise, and Calm app practices – those are all excellent ways to manage stress and stay positive.

    I’m here to support you as you navigate through this period. Whenever you need someone to talk to or bounce ideas off of, don’t hesitate to reach out. Take care and keep doing what you’re doing. You’re making positive strides!

    anita

    #442888
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Hope you have a good weekend!

    I have a bit of the Sunday blues today. I found out late last week i will needed to do a big presentation on Tuesday to 100+ people.

    Public speaking to a crowd like that isn’t something I generally enjoy and I do feel a little anxious about it. I will try and prepare the best I can for it tomorrow and just do my best.

    #442890
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    Thank you, it’s a rainy, rainy weekend here. Maybe can help you put together part of your presentation? (I will be back to the computer Mon morning (it’s Sun afternoon here).

    anita

    #442896
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Appreciate the reply as always, I am ok with putting the presentation together. It’s more delivering it to a large group. I always get very nervous etc and worry about it until it’s done. Thanks

    #442915
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    Thank you for your message. I completely understand your concerns about delivering the presentation to a large group. It’s natural to feel nervous about public speaking.

    If it helps, here are a few tips that might ease your nerves:

    Practice: Rehearse your presentation multiple times, either in front of a mirror, with a friend, or recording yourself. Familiarity will boost your confidence.

    Focus on Breathing: Before and during your presentation, take deep breaths to calm your nerves.

    Engage with the Audience: Try to focus on connecting with your audience rather than just delivering content. It can make the experience feel more like a conversation.

    Positive Visualization: Picture yourself delivering a successful presentation. Positive imagery can help build confidence.

    Remember, it’s okay to feel nervous. Even experienced speakers feel the same way. You’ve got this!

    anita

    #442963
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    The presentation was yesterday and went ok I think. I did my best and that is the main thing.

    Still want to try and find something i enjoy more but the 6 month notice period does concern me. I am hoping to have a relaxing weekend where I can think.

    Thanks

    #442980
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    It’s good to read that your presentation went well! Doing your best is indeed the most important thing, and I’m sure it showed.

    It’s understandable to feel concerned about the 6-month notice period, especially when you’re considering finding something you enjoy more. Taking time to think and reflect over the weekend sounds like a good plan. It’s important to give yourself space to make thoughtful decisions about your future.

    I hope you have a relaxing and restorative weekend ahead. Feel free to reach out if you need to talk or need any support.

    anita

    #443327
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Hope all is well.

    I have begun to make enquiries about a life/career coach and will consider my options there once I have spoken with someone.

    I continue to do my best in the role and look after myself out side of work with fresh air, exercise and reading. I have started to reach out to a couple of recruitors to see what options are out there and will also continue to look myself for any openings.

    Working for myself is something I also want to explore.

    #443328
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    It’s great to hear from you, and I hope you’re doing well too.

    I’m glad to see you’re taking proactive steps by looking into a career coach and reaching out to recruiters. Balancing your current role with self-care through fresh air, exercise, and reading sounds like a healthy approach.

    Exploring self-employment and new job opportunities can provide you with valuable insights into what might be the best path forward.

    If you need someone to talk to or if there’s any way I can support you during this transition, feel free to reach out. Wishing you all the best as you navigate these decisions.

    Take care and stay in touch.

    anita

    #443611
    Tom
    Participant

    Thanks Anita,

    I do like to keep you updated and write things down here from time to time.

    Yesterday was a tough day where I felt overwhelmed for large points in the office but today is a new day and I’m ready to go again and do my best.

    #443616
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    Thank you for keeping me updated. I appreciate you sharing what’s been going on.

    I’m sorry to hear that yesterday was a tough day for you, but it’s great to see your positive attitude and readiness to tackle the new day. Remember to take things one step at a time and take breaks when needed. You’ve got this!

    Feel free to reach out anytime you need to talk or need some support.

    anita

    #443646
    Tom
    Participant

    Thanks Anita,

    I just feel lost with it all at the moment tbh.

    I want to try form an exit but not too sure where to begin without taking a financial hit which will lead to issues elsewhere.

    #443671
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    You are welcome! I understand how overwhelming it must feel to be stuck in a job you hate while also worrying about the financial consequences of leaving.

    I wonder if you’ve considered the possibility of leaving the job, even if it comes with some financial cost, but minimizing that cost by making specific financial arrangements beforehand. Sometimes, when we feel lost, finding a way to prioritize our mental well-being while strategically planning for the financial transition can help us move forward.

    For example, you might explore creating a budget to reduce non-essential expenses, saving up for a financial cushion before leaving, or even looking into part-time or freelance work to bridge the gap. Perhaps there are resources within your field or local community—like job placement programs, training opportunities, or even networking groups—that could help you transition more smoothly.

    Ultimately, it’s a tough decision to make, but you deserve to feel a sense of purpose and peace in your daily life. If you’d like, I can help you brainstorm more specific steps, or simply be here to listen as you work through these feelings.

    anita

    #444115
    anita
    Participant

    How are you these days, Tom?

    anita

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