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    DaveF
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    Hi Anita,

    You are right about being bald, I have had several partners before, but I think it’s a normal self-conscious thing about having great hair etc etc. I shouldn’t focus on this at all. I am not sure how to exactly share images on here, so I’m happy to send them across and see what you think via another route, but I can’t seem to find what I last had on my profile, though thinking about it, if I were to create one right now, I think it would go something like this:

     

    Musician & artist.

    Runner, walker and footballer.

    Accomplished cook, keen finder of new places to eat and drink.

    Bookworm and science fanatic.

    Big film and TV fan, especially Christopher Nolan.

    Empathetic, compassionate, with a dark sense of humour.

    Very close with friends and family.

     

    I guess It might be a bit vague, or not… but I was trying to write it for limited space on a bio like tinder or bumble. Would love to know your thoughts, I’m always a little conscious that I do not want to sound like I am trying to show off.

    Dave

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    anita
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    Dear Dave:

    It’s okay to not post your image here, see to it that you are smiling in the photo, a genuine smile, will you?

    You mention Tinder and Bumble: I am not familiar with either. Consider Match. com and Plenty of Fish. com (a free service)- they may be more serious/ reputable online dating services which allow a large space for members’ profiles.

    You listed in regard to your profile: “Musician & artist. Runner, walker and footballer. Accomplished cook, keen finder of new places to eat and drink. Bookworm and science fanatic. Big film and TV fan, especially Christopher Nolan”- 

    – I would place these things at the end of your profile (which would read like a short essay). Start the essay with what you want from a relationship and what you have to offer it. Go straight to the point. Say it in simple, direct language. You are welcome to post this here.

    anita

    #386362
    TeaK
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    Dear Dave,

    I am yes, definitely feeling the pressure to not mess things up next time, but I think I am also feeling a sense of calm, that I definitely know what I want and need from a relationship, and will be able to choose carefully before becoming too involved, and also to be honest with people I date about this.

    This is great that you know what you want from a relationship, and will be able to choose wiser, not so much from your wound but more from a sense of wholeness and knowing yourself.

    Thanks for the advice, I have joined two meetup groups in my area and have planned to go to two events in the next few weeks

    Good for you, I hope you have a good time!

    I’m a little nervous about telling my friends about these, as I’m not sure if they would judge, but then again, they are all in couples, so it would be hard to understand my position right now.

    Maybe you don’t need to tell your friends, if you feel they’d judge you. Tell them only afterwards, if things work out fine.

    Wishing a speedy recovery to your father!

     

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