You should share this with her, as she most likely already senses your fear. Start by letting her read this.

If you don’t tell her, then your relationship will likely fall. You may extend it for some time as a co-parent , but that will be harmful in the long haul.

I would imagine that even if she decides to exit she might still be helpful as a compassionate friend. Personally, in your place, I would accept that.

While fear is understandable and not abnormal, I don’t think any symptoms here is terminal. You will work through is as you will. And as long as you own your journey, then you will have the respect and help and love of others.

I am no expert, so just take this opinion with a grain of salt.
Good Luck !

I second the advice to talk to her.

I also think you might be psyching yourself out a little. This only came up when you studied counselling and the potential problems people from difficult backgrounds have, right? Well, you should know that there are also many people with difficult childhoods and traumas that lead pretty ordinary lives.

If your self-esteem is an issue then that’s worth working on, for sure. But don’t assume you’re unable to love just because you don’t like yourself. You don’t have to be enlightened before you can love someone else. You just need to be willing.

Good luck.