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  • August 20, 2025 at 3:02 pm #448807
    Peter
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    Hi Alessa
    No need to apologize the idea behind stories was to let people see what they will in them so me saying I ‘missed the mark’ kind of undermined that. Of course I didn’t notice till I clicked post, I assume because the ‘universe’ thinks that funny. I wish they brought back the window to edit. Still all good.

    I think, from my own experience and observations, that its near imposable not to project our fears and hopes into virtual world conversations where the only tool we have is language. As you note if such is the case, trust is important if not the key.

    I hated book reports even though, or maybe because, I really struggled saying what I wanted to say. Primary because I can’t spell to save my life, which meant I limited myself to the words I would use, and even then, would lose all the points for grammar and spelling so I would always only just pass. Of course I took that a meaning I was stupid because that’s what we do when where young and don’t know better.

    Today we have all these wonderful tool but even then one has to be careful. Ai will tell you what you want to hear. I use it to check my grammar and flow and then argue with it when it starts changing what I’m trying to saying and you can learn quite a bit doing that.

    You wont be surprised to learn that I have filled notebooks with quotes from books I read, then spend years linking ideas from different sources. Now I can revisit those thoughts, test the connections, and really explore them. But I still need to be careful using these tools.

    August 21, 2025 at 11:57 am #448857
    Alessa
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    Hi Peter

    I miss the edit function too. 😊

    I guess for me, working on my fears helps me to be less afraid.

    I’ve been really enjoying talking to you and getting to know you some more. I think you’re a really pure soul. ❤️

    I would never have known that you struggled with these things because you are an excellent writer! I understand what it is like to have difficulty with some things. Maths and anything to do with symbols are my weakness. Everyone has different strengths. I’m glad that you can see your strengths now.

    I think it’s really amazing that you didn’t let having difficulty with something deter you from enjoying it and exploring it. You have really honed your craft! ❤️

    Was there a reason that you decided to stick with it?

    Yes, I am very aware of the flaws with AI because I’m an IT student. It is a shame because people can be really easily mislead by it. It’s basically designed to try and make the person using it feel comfortable at any cost. It is one of those cases of if it is free you are the product. It is designed to encourage people to use it as much as possible.

    I’m glad that it helps you, because it can be a useful tool when used mindfully, which you are. It is a shame that it takes so much effort to encourage the software not to actively mislead people. It’s a really big problem. I know people who are tech savvy who have been mislead by it. It’s very much on the user to call it out on its mistakes and it takes repeatedly challenging it.

    Particularly when analyzing conflict it is very deceptive. I have had to teach people how to remove bias from their inputs. It is really unfortunate because people can use it with good intentions, trying to learn and grow, while it gaslights them. It’s a real shame. Some states in the US are even banning them from being used as a therapeutic tool for this exact reason.

    August 22, 2025 at 6:50 am #448883
    Peter
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    Hi Alessa

    I’m not sure I’d say I “stuck with it” though I wonder if its a choice. Often, I’ve wished I could stop what feels like an endless quest to answer the first question every child asks: why? Lately, though, I’ve been exploring how to balance that search by moving from the head and into the heart. Learning to rest in the rhythm of head and heart has softened, and sometimes even quieted, my restless mind.

    I agree that using AI as a therapist is problematic, something AI itself will confirm.. or maybe it just told me what I wanted to hear because of how I asked the question. 😊

    What many people don’t realize is how much the way you ask a question and the prompt you use shapes the response. Even framing the interaction as a safe space versus a brave space can significantly influence the tone and depth of the conversation. In my view, anyone using AI for meaningful dialogue should at least understand the basics of prompt design.

    In my work, I’ve been exploring how AI applications are tested, and it’s clear that traditional deterministic methods aren’t enough. Everything is so dynamic. Testing for bias, in particular, is one of the hardest challenges because fairness is context dependent and culturally nuanced. I would imagen that anyone doing that work needs to be aware of their own biases and perhaps even engage in deeper self-reflection such as shadow work. Ironically, at a time when bias and diversity training is being questioned, we may need that very training to use AI responsibly as the support tool it could be.

    Used wisely, AI has the potential to broaden our perspectives; used unwisely, it risks trapping us in our bubbles.

    August 24, 2025 at 12:43 am #448922
    Alessa
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    Hi Peter

    That makes sense. It is in your nature to question and the drive was stronger than your discomfort. Unintended, but possibly it taught you that it is possible to overcome difficulties and learn to strengthen weaknesses?

    Why did you wish to stop your drive to question? Was it because of the restlessness that you mentioned? Or other things too?

    Sorry for all of the questions. It is okay if you don’t want to answer. I’m just curious. ❤️

    Oh definitely, leading questions are a problem. They often reveal our personal beliefs, feelings and desires which AI immediately latches onto.

    Wow, that’s very cool you work with AI. It sounds very interesting! I’m sure that you know a lot more about it than me. 😊

    Yes, I feel like AI is beneficial if used correctly. It is just unfortunately, not intuitive for people to use like that at the moment sadly.

    My therapist is a specialist in trauma, autism and post birth care. She has been encouraging me to explore other people’s perspectives and empathise with them even when they differ from my own experience in times of conflict. The goal is to be more understanding instead of focusing on my own hurt feelings. Doing this, I’ve noticed actually allows me to feel less hurt when I see that others are having difficulties too instead of seeing the situation as hurting me.

    Sometimes I find it helpful to use AI to get a sense of what others feelings might be in different situations (I ask about what others might experience in the situation and include as much context as possible). It is hard for me to imagine without talking to the person directly about their experience you see.

    Also for analyzing conflict. I have noticed it is beneficial to anonymise data so AI can’t identify me and skew the results. And to understand unhealthy behaviours I ask for all unhealthy behaviours in a conversation to be flagged. This way I can see my own unhealthy behaviours, as well as others.

    Summaries of conversations, I find helpful too. It is interesting to ask for a detailed analysis too.

    I find that I get a clearer picture about what is actually going on. As opposed to falsely confirming what I’m feeling.

    It is interesting realising that too much validation can actually be harmful. Especially when neurodivergence is involved because there are often limitations in understanding others perspectives and situations.

    Take care ❤️

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