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    Connor Michael
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    Hi everyone I am new here. Don’t really know what I’m looking for. A brief background on myself. I am 22 years old and my whole life I considered myself a very devout Christian. I took a career in law enforcement and the weight of the unknown as far as not knowing what call was going to bring what weighed on me heavily. Now, I met my amazing girlfriend in the academy and she lives her life on what she calls Buddha-darma principles. I am reading the book called Buddhism plain and simple. Amazing read thus far. I’m looking I guess for a place to ask questions and grow and learn as I am slowly but surely edging away from what I was raised on. I’m not going to lie it is a scary thing. I almost feel bad for leaving but something bigger I can feel is in this lifestyle and mindset I truly feel it. .. I’m sorry if this is abnormally long but just looking for advice, wisdom, and resources thank you all so much…

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    anita
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    Dear Connor Michael:

    You wrote: “I am slowly but surely edging away from what I was raised on… it is a scary thing.. something bigger I can feel is in this lifestyle and mindset”-

    because it is scary to change our core beliefs, take it easy, slowly. Don’t aim at a change, be willing to not proceed, to stop any time. No pressure. If something big takes place in your mindset and your lifestyle, let it happen at a slow place, don’t rush it.

    And do  post anytime, sharing any particular thought you have, any feeling, a life situation you would like help with. I will be glad to reply to you.

    * I learned from my readings in the past that when I believed there was truth in what I read in a book, that I assumed that everything in that book was true. But I was wrong. Not everything in any of the books I read was true.

    anita

     

     

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    Connor Michael
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    Thank you Anita for your comment, it is difficult because for every thing I want to belive and I think is right and makes sense in this new teaching I am learning of.. there seems to be 10 reasons why my faith growing up belives it to be false and I cant not notice it. Its going to take some serious time and patience I think I don’t want to force it. But to learn something one must also unlearn too….maybe at least that what they always told me lol see my problem here?

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    anita
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    Dear Connor Michael:

    When we learn something that does not require unlearning, it is much easier. Unlearning core beliefs, what we used to believe is true, is an emotional process and so it is difficult. Is this your problem you referred to in your last sentence above, the emotional difficulty in unlearning?

    anita

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    Connor Michael
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    Yes it is.. because I want to fully experience something and I feel like I cant do that with contridictions hanging over my head all the time and if contridictions will always be apart of it..then how to I reconcile that.. my dad told me recently find my truth but whatever you do don’t be someone that says they belive and doesn’t live it out. so if I find this is something I want to belive and so far it is those contridictions just bother me I suppose at some point though they wont matter

     

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    anita
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    Dear Connor Michael:

    I don’t think that it is necessary to have contradiction hanging over one’s head. It may be misunderstandings and incorrect information that are responsible for those contradictions.

    Would you like to list these contradictions you referred to?

    I would like to read your list and respond to it when I am back to the computer in about fifteen hours.

    anita

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