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  • #238631
    Amelia
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    I’ve got a new job 5 months ago as a lecturer at a public university own by government. At first when I arrived at the office I already sensed something is not right with the work environment. People seems to be cold at each other (as a new comer, I predicted that they will be not really friendly), but tue cold not only with me but with each other. As I am reaching 5 months working there, I realised that my colleagues doesn’t have a good communication with each other. One of the reason is few people stabbing back their friends, so they choose not to care anymore about development of the department. There is also a perfectionist coallegue who always try to pick up people mistakes. It’s hard to feel comfortable near them. We just got a new boss, not long before I got the job. She is also a perfectionist who likes to blamed people. She is also kinda controlling, who is not like if we disagree with her opinion. She is not really likes to hear subordinates opinion. Her existence make the works situation worst. I really want to have a job as a lecturer in public university, but I don’t expect, I will have this kind of toxic work situation. I know there will be no ideal work place, but this is too much. It is really stress me out, but if I quit everyone will criticize me because it’s very hard to get this job which is safe and have a good pay.

    #238675
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Amelia:

    I don’t think you can change this “Toxic work situation” because you are not in a superior position to the others, able to arrange for department meetings, let’s say, bring up problems and manage solutions being discussed. There are people involved in this problematic situation that you have no control over.

    I suggest you accept the situation best you can, not expecting it to change.  The warmth and cooperation that you want, find it in personal relationships where you have, or should  have, equal control, or power as the other  person or persons involved.

    Just do your work and expect the problems you already faced to continue without resolution… (unless you become a manager of sorts, a superior).

    anita

    #239993
    Amelia
    Participant

    Dear Anita, thank you so much for your response. Maybe I expect too much with this job. I know I could not do much, because I am new person, but I feel really tired mentally because of this situation.

    #240017
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Amelia:

    It may be a good idea for you to leave this job, but before you do try to accept what you cannot change, this  acceptance, if  you manage it, will reduce t he resistance, the  friction that you experience  daily at the job, and that friction I s what is tiring you so much, the resisting of it.

    See  if accepting  the way things  are while  maintaining some rules (to not  be abused, for  one) makes the work situation  less unpleasant and  focus on what is pleasant  about it.

    anita

    #248395
    Amelia
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thank you so much for your suggestion

    #248423
    anita
    Participant

    You are welcome, Amelia. Anytime.

    anita

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