Fast forwards to my new relationship. I had a good relationship with my boyfriend’s roommate/bestfriend. One day it was brought up that this girl who I had issues with before is now going to be their new roommate. When I began to explain why I had trouble with this girl, my boyfriend’s roommate raised his voice and got really angry. I got really upset and raised my voice too, then I left their apartment. After that night, my relationship to my boyfriend’s roommate has gone sour. Whenever I was at their apartment, the friend would make me feel really uncomfortable. Sometimes giving me odd looks. I stopped going to my boyfriend’s apartment because I didn’t want to see his roommate anymore. Now, when I do sleep over, I leave very early in the morning when I feel as if the roommate has left. My boyfriend has talked to his roommate/friend. Apparently his friend says that this other girl who he is closer to has told him things about me and that he has a negative image of me. He said he didn’t want to see me for a while so he could get rid of those negative misconceptions. This conversation happened before I started to avoid the roommate.

Today, my boyfriend finally told me that he wants me to be on good terms with his roommate/bestfriend and not avoid him because it makes him feel bad. He said it bothers him and will make the “problem” worse if I keep avoiding him. He asked me to be nice and polite with the roommate and not avoid him (Although he said and I know I have never been rude/impolite to his roommate). I personally feel like I have to work extra hard to win his roommate over and I really don’t want to because I simply don’t care about this person. I have cut out many toxic people from my life and moved on from the drama in my past relationship.I feel like it’s better to just avoid him. My boyfriend thinks if I’m nice to him then his negative pre-conceptions of me will go away. Personally, anybody who will judge another person based on misconceptions is probably already wrong. Either way, it doesn’t bother me at all that my boyfriend’s roommate does not like me, but it’s putting a strain on my relationship. I am not sure if I am being unreasonable or he is being unreasonable? My boyfriend has already mentioned to me that this girl is now his friend as well since he will be living with her. Although I wanted him to choose between us, I know that it’s wrong and I did not ask him to do so. At the same time, I feel like if I can’t tell him to choose between me and his female friend, he is not allowed to ask me to be friends with his friend if I don’t want to.