Happy Birthday

“The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.” – Albert Einstein

In measuring a point in time its so difficult not to want everything to happen/change all at once… but that would defeat reason for time.

We artificially create meaningful points of time in which to measure ourselves against. Are we where we wanted to be? Do I have, will I have, what I dreamed of having, that I dreamed of becoming? Can I envision a future that is different from the memories of how I see myself now? …

In general, when it comes to measuring our experience most people suck, making these moments of time and space in which we feel called to reflect to become depressive instead of constructive.

Reflection during these transitional points in our life journey are very important, but only if done skillfully. Only if we are asking helpful questions and not measuring/comparing our answers and experiences against how we think others are doing.

Self Reflection is a time to be honest without judgment.

Found the following after a quick google which might help you stay connected to your authentic self and grow through your reflections.

1. We need emotional space to process transitions. Give yourself time and space to process transitions. It may not seem “productive” so you’ll need to remind yourself that you truly need space, and that this will promote growth in the long run. If you’re leading a team in transition, give the team space to process. Create some space for dialogue and interaction about the transition. Look at the long term outcomes; not just the short term. The goal is not to get rid of pesky emotions and maximize productivity today

2.It’s normal and good to grieve the loss of what was. Let yourself grieve. Jesus said, “blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” There is a deep psychological truth here; mourning brings about healing and comfort, even though it’s painful at the time.

3. Most transitions have a mix of positive and negative aspects. It’s normal to feel a mix of such emotions. Give yourself space for the full range of emotions and the inevitable ups and downs that come with the territory.

4. People process transitions differently depending on their personality and life history. Don’t expect yourself to process things the same way others do.

5. Vulnerability is strength. It doesn’t feel like it when we experience vulnerability, but it truly is strength. Vulnerability comes from a measure of security to be where you are, rather than to deny the emotional reality of what things mean to you

6. Remember the promise of something new. If you deny the reality of the pain of transition, the new will not have meaning, or you’ll never arrive at the new. You must process the meaning of what was, and come to imbue it with a new sense of meaning. As you do this, take a step back occasionally and focus on what is emerging that is new, healthy and fresh.

Miracle,

Happy Belated 29th! It’s all good my friend. Ya know when I was born I saw complete strangers that I never saw before. There were talking some silly stuff that I didn’t understand. Then when I turned 2 I sort of freaked out because I realized that my age had doubled. I thought that at that rate by the time I was 7 I’d be 64. Sheesh. When I turned 3 my grandmother gave me a walkie talkie. She said that if I promised to be good she’s give me the other one when I was 5. YIKES!

Anyway my friend…29 was weird to me as well but not terrible. In a way I was kind of glad my 20’s ended. 30 one thing that happened that I kind of didn’t expect to happen. My metabolism shut down. Seriously. So I had to join the healthy eater club, which didn’t always pan out.

Close that chapter called The 20’s of My Life and write an even more exciting chapter called Ready Or Not Here Come The30’s. It’s exciting my friend.

Again, Happy Belated Birthday

Pearce