Hi Julie,

The more I learn about twin flames, the more I think the idea of it is actually pretty toxic. It seems to keep people hanging onto other people when they shouldn’t, focusing on that one person as their only true option even though that person keeps hurting them, which then keeps people in pain when they could be moving on and feeling better. I understand the intensity of the connection that can happen and how amazing it is (I’ve felt a connection that strong myself), and that’s likely why people want to attach the mysticism to it, but it’s keeping people stuck rather than moving forward.  I’m not saying you shouldn’t believe in it altogether, but just don’t let it get you stuck if you’re feeling pain and turmoil because of it.

So no matter what the connection, twin flame or soul mate or other, if you are feeling incomplete and depressed, you need to try to let go of him, at least for now. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be when it’s supposed to (most likely after he lets go of his ex, too). Also, it’d most likely not happen while you’re feeling desperate for it or that you cannot be complete without it, so if the universe is telling you anything, let it be that you need to find a way to feel whole and complete in yourself, without anyone else.

And I agree with Anita… if he won’t respect your need for space when you ask for it, I’d block him, at least until you’re feeling better, stronger, and more like yourself.