My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now and I was beyond in love with. We had a weird situation were it took us about a year to finally get together. I feel like we worked so hard to be together and now I’m not feeling very good about us. I don’t know if anyone else does this but I’ve made a list of things I want in a man, nothing crazy, just basic things like responsible, have a car, a job, etc. Well he fits almost most of my requirements. I’ve also made a list of pros and cons about my boyfriend and there are definitely more pros than cons. I feel like he’s so perfect for me, we both want the same things in life and I’m really attracted to him. He’s funny and he’s my best friend. I feel like I love him but it really bothers me how he treats me sometimes. I can’t even talk to him about it because he’s so difficult to talk to. He assumes I’m trying to start a fight. Some of the things that bother me about him are also what attracted me to him. He’s a know it all which is really annoying, I mean he’s really smart but he’s condescending when he talks to me. He’s really witty and sarcastic and I know he’s just kidding sometimes but there is always true to jokes. I just feel like he doesn’t respect my opinion on anything because he thinks he knows best. For example, I’ll tell him something about a product or subject and he just dismisses my opinion but then later on someone else will say exactly what I say and then he’ll believe it or consider it accurate. I feel like he thinks I have no credibility. What really bothers me the most is how he makes me feel. I have always been very confident in myself. I know I am smart and beautiful, not to toot my own horn. I hate it that he makes me feel stupid. I hate it that he doesn’t think I’m intelligent. I am a very polite and kind person, I am humble and never talk down to people. He thinks he’s superior to me. He’ll make jokes like, you’re pretty so you don’t have to be smart. When I ask him if he thinks I’m stupid he replies, No, I was just kidding…if I thought you were stupid I wouldn’t be dating you. He just acts like such an asshole sometimes. He’s also really weird about his friends, he says he likes to keep his personal life private but to me that just seems shady. I know this is really stupid but he refuses to associate with me on FB. We are friends on FB but he doesn’t say that he’s in a relationship or that we are together, there aren’t any pictures of us. If you visited his facebook you wouldn’t know I existed. He never mentions me at all. He even once posted that he spent Saturday night drinking beer with his dog and watching Netflix…..I was there too! What am I furniture? At first he claimed that he didn’t want to post anything because he didn’t like people knowing his business but I later found out that he had in a relationship with his previous girlfriend when they dated but he claims that she forced him to. He claims that it’s too soon after her and that he has mutual friends with her and he doesn’t want people talking badly about him. His previous girlfriend was friends with all his friends and hung out at he same spots they did. He’s so worried about what other people think. I claims that I’ve met everyone who matters like his family and close friends. I know he’s trying to make me feel better but it doesn’t. In my family we don’t introduce boyfriends if they aren’t serious boyfriends, introducing him to my family was a big deal for me. I always thought that was the same for everyone but I later found out that he’s brought home all his girlfriends, so much for feeling special. He’s had about 18 previous girlfriend and apparently his parents have most of them. I wouldn’t be so concerned if we didn’t live together. We live together and he talks about marriage and says he love me. He loves me and wants to marry me but can’t publicly let anyone on FB know. I just feel like it’s super shady. It makes me think that he’s not very sure about me, I wouldn’t be public about him if I wasn’t sure but I am. I just feel like he gives me mixed signals, he tells me he loves me and that he wants to marry me but then he turns around and acts shady about us? He also claims that he wouldn’t of asked me to move in if he wasn’t serious about me but he’s lived with his three previous girlfriends too. The normal things that would indicate that he’s serious about me like introducing me to his family or asking me move in mean nothing because he done this with all his previous girlfriends I feel. He’s also not very thoughtful. My ex was very romantic and thoughtful and he’s the opposite. I don’t know how to read that. I’ve only had one other boyfriend and don’t have anyone else to compare to. I know everyone shows love differently. For holidays like Christmas, Valentines day, our anniversary, or my birthday he makes little effort and when he does he waits for the last minute to do something or get me something. For this past Christmas he bought his step mom a nice bracelet…I got house slippers and a candle? AND he didn’t even bother to wrap it. I claims that he didn’t know what to get me…um a bracelet would of been nice. I feel like everything is starting to get to me, I love him but it bothers me so much. I mean he’s not cheap or anything, he never lets me pay for anything and he’s a gentleman when we go out but I feel like he does it for show, for appearances. The only nice thing he has ever bought me was a parrot I really wanted, but he really wanted it too. I know it seems like I keep putting down his efforts but he has yet done anything where the sole purpose was to do something nice. The parrot was really expensive but he really wanted a parrot too, he said that the parrot was my Christmas/Birthday present since he didn’t give me anything nice. I mean I guess the parrot really is mine and I can take it with me if we break up. I don’t know, I’m so confused. I feel like he’s really great but there are things that bother me about him and I make excuses for him. I don’t like to make excuses for people’s behavior. I’ve tried to talk to him about all the things that bother me about him but he’s so defensive and gets angry and says I just want to start a fight and turns things on me. I just don’t want to waste my time with someone that isn’t committed to me. Numerous times I’ve tried talking to him about me feeling like he’s not really committed to me but it’s like talking to a wall. I just don’t think it’s fair that I am more committed than he is. I’ve never lived with anyone else before, I left my home to live with him and I just want to feel like I’m not just another girlfriend. I want to pressure him but it’s been a two years since we’ve been together and we’ve been living together for a year now. I’ve noticed that lately I’ve been thinking about leaving, I’ve been thinking about not being with him. I’m not sure if I should keep working on us or just move on. Also, I’m not sure if it’s because I’m PMSing but he’s been getting on my last nerve lately, I’m just over his bullshit. I don’t know if it’s just a phase or not. I just feel like I’m starting not to care anymore, I’m just so tired of feeling this way. Everything I knew about how a relationship is suppose to be or how things are suppose to be no longer are true. I feel discouraged. I’m realize things aren’t so black and white. I just don’t know when am I suppose to say goodbye to someone. Am I fighting for us or just forcing the relationship?