May 20, 2019 at 11:17 am #294745
I’m a young woman who went through many challenges during the years, the hardest one of happened three years ago, when I touched the rock bottom, because of a stressful job, no friends and the consequences of my depression issues. It was the hardest experience but it motivated me so much to actively start working towards the life I wanted to live. In the past three years things started going incredibly better, I really feel I’ve found my place in the world, a good relationship, good friends and the purpose to go on in this direction. Until recently I began to worry a lot. I began to ask myself how much control I have on wanting to go on with this life and whether there’s already a pre-written purpose that the Universe/God already settled for each of us. What if this kind of life isn’t the one I’m meant to live even if it makes me so happy? How much free will I have? Do we choose and attract what we want, or what we should according to the universe plan?May 20, 2019 at 12:27 pm #294793
My answer: nature’s plan for all living things, humans included, is to survive best we can and reproduce. I like it that we humans have the choice to reproduce-or-not and I am all for taking advantage of this self determination, something outside of what nature planned for us.
Nature also planned for us humans as the social animals that we are to cooperate with other humans in win-win interactions and relationships, for the advantage of both parties and the herd aka society in general.
There is no god, no all-good, all knowing entity that knows and cares to know what each of us thinks and feels, nor does this entity- which does not exist- has a plan for our lives, such as a soul mate we are to marry one day, a career we are supposed to have and so forth.
You wrote: “I really feel I’ve found my place in the world, a good relationship, good friends… I began to ask myself how much control I have on wanting to go on with this life”-
– my input: you have limited control, but there is no entity that does have the control that you don’t and if you only found out the … plan of that entity for you, then you will feel safe.
There is no such entity, no such plan beyond what nature is about, beyond who we are naturally. We can never be more safe than we are because danger is there and death is a guarantee. Seek comfort in your good relationship, this is more than many people have, a good relationship. Seek comfort with your friends and comfort them. Make reasonable choices in your life, be attentive, mindful of your actions, this will maximize your safety.
anitaMay 21, 2019 at 2:03 pm #294991
“What we see changes what we know. What we know changes what we see.” – Jean Piaget
“We create the world that we perceive, not because there is no reality outside our heads, but because we select and edit the reality we see to conform to our beliefs about what sort of world we live in.” ― Gregory Bateson
The Law of Attraction is very much connected to the idea that we ‘see’ what we expect to see and call it attraction. perhaps you heard the saying “your car goes where your eyes go” – “The driver who cannot tear his eyes away from the wall as he spins out of control will meet that wall; the driver who looks down the track as he feels his tires break free will regain control of his vehicle.” – Garth Stein
Here the driver that can’t look away from the wall ‘attracts’ the crash while the driver with a calm ‘mindfulness’ looks down the track ‘attracts’ the regaining of control. (it is a ‘break of free will’)
I like the question of how much ‘free will’ do we have as it points to my observation that we have free will however that it is difficult to exercise. (And that many people do not exercise at all – for these people every “choice” is a reaction never a response.)
There is a hermetic saying – As above so below, as below so above – we are influenced, and we influence, we are created as we create, we are bigger then big smaller then small – we are influenced from outside forces, nurture and nature, that we have no control of… yet at the same time can influence the outer by addressing the inner.
‘Free will’ then may be the art of making the choice to become the change we hope to attract and create in the world.
Thus, we have the practice of mindfulness and ‘not doing’ – free will is the art of not doing – how’s that for a paradox. In the words of the infomercial “set it and forget” it. When we try to force change we almost always shift to trying to change outside forces of which we have no control over. Imagine trying to force a plane into the air by lifting it. When we are the change we become that slight change of the wing that allows the plane to lift off.
I would argue that the Universal plan is Life – the paradox here being that life relies on the sacrifice of life. That is life’s wonder and its horror. As such life does not give us meaning, we give meaning to life. Your destiny then is to be you. You are exactly where you must be to get to where your going. So follow your bliss, drive your ‘car’ mindfully, avoiding becoming fixated on fear and be the change you want to attract.