Ups are ups and downs are disappointing

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August 15, 2021 at 11:10 am #384765

Michael
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This year has been a cluster of crazy. I lost my job, finding a new one has taken 6 mo ths with more rejection than a dating app. I found the love of my life and got accepted to my dream school while this happened. I lost my apartment and while we are talking about emotions mine have been amplified so much that numbness and deafness has taken its place. I am trying to get them under control but my circumstances seem to keep getting worse my head space is such a dangerous place right now while everything shifts and i feel like i cant help anyone let alone myself. So emotional mastery can some one help me im not entitely what to do in this super insane situation that seems to have me easily spiraling with negative emotions.

August 15, 2021 at 1:43 pm #384817

Tee
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Dear Michael,

I am trying to get them under control but my circumstances seem to keep getting worse my head space is such a dangerous place right now while everything shifts and i feel like i cant help anyone let alone myself.

It seems you feel overwhelmed by the negative happenings in your life, and you don’t have many people who can help you, but you rather feel that you should be helping others. And that’s very difficult, since you can’t even help yourself. It appears you feel responsible for others, not just yourself. If you would like to share more – is it your family, or your girlfriend, or someone else whom you feel you should be helping?

August 15, 2021 at 1:48 pm #384818
Anonymous
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Dear Michael:

“This year has been a cluster of crazy.. this super insane situation that seems to have me easily spiraling with negative emotions“-

– don’t panic, or if you are spiraling right now, put a stop on the spiraling. Think of this: if there are people out there who are having a-cluster-of-crazy-year, as crazy as yours, but they manage to keep the distance in between their ears crazy-free, maybe you can manage the same.

In what ways did you try to manage the crazy so far?

anita
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August 15, 2021 at 2:19 pm #384820

Peter
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That was a lot to experience in such a short time. Thanks for sharing Michael

Its odd how you can feel so much that it can feel like nothing. Its so easy to get stuck in that. I’m not sure its something we control at least not by will power, which I think only amplifies the emotions.

Most of the advice I’ve read on this is to take moments to be still and ‘focus’ on feeling what you feel, bring them out of the general numbness of being. The intent is to allow the emotions to flow by not attaching a sense of self to the emotion. You have emotions, your are not your emotions.

Lately I find I been wanting to scream, to exhaust myself in a good scream and rant, sometimes that helps to 🙂
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