If you have a daughter, raising her is The Accomplishment. The One Thing You Have To Do. Everything else is Optional. If you get to them, great. If not, it doesn’t matter. It really doesn’t. There’s no angel in heaven saying, “No garden? Bad knitter? Junk food? Where’s that car?”

Now, for things that you are already doing, I downloaded an app called Keep it Green. For gardening, I put in Once a Week, and when it turns Yellow, I know that it’s time for me to water the plants. It’s really a Habit App. I also have down Exercise 3X a week. But guess what? I didn’t exercise last week!!! The worst thing that happened was that it turned Yellow, then Red, then Grey, then Blue. My kids came first OH WELL. Some days it is all Green and then I pat myself on the back.

Keep it Light!

Skye,

You can live one day at a time. We all start out as babies and eventually get older. Our understanding doesnt come in a day. Similarly, its good to have goals but you must realize that goals are of different natures- some take more time, some get done in a day. Say, i want to be good at math (A+) while i am getting D’s right now. It will not happen in a day but it can happen if i work consistency every day, right? In my mind, i want to be the A-grader math geek but right now, i am simply someone trying to improve my level. Even if i get to A+, I can only stay there so far..eventually i will have to work to stay there.

So dear friend, you’re in the first stage. Prioritize what is important to you and work at it day by day. Life is very precious and so is time. You might necessarily be able to do 40 things right but try to do atleast 2-3 very well.

“I’ve started so many little projects or had all these ideas about how I want to garden and eat whole foods and knit and be the perfect parent and live a happy fulfilled life of enlightenment and raise my daughter to be a good person,work on cars and have a project car, bake and cook more, travel etc.etc.”

This is all great but rather scattered – prioritize as per your values. What are your long-term, short-term goals? Which goals will take more time to work on? Which ones can you actually do on an every day basis?

For example, living a happy fulfilled life is great but thats your whole life ahead of you. Seeing how your daughter will turn out might take some decades to really see…so how do you know exactly? You dont! But you can start by looking after your health – emotional and physical. You can love your daughter everyday without worrying. You can simply enjoy cooking sometimes or bake a cake.

It isnt as much as what you do as how it makes you feel – my priorities may be different from yours but we can both enjoy this present moment – a beautiful day, a smile, good music and feeling joy..think about it 🙂 Perhaps you will see my point.

Climb your mountain all you want but enjoy your climb and appreciate the peaks you reach.

– Moon