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July 28, 2015 at 8:19 pm #80710LorenzoParticipant
Hi, my name is Lorenzo. I am 15 years old and ever since i was 11 my dad introduced me to alot of spirituality etc., ever since I’ve been searching and reading a bunch of things. I’ve read books like The mastery of love, The voice of knowledge, The four agreements all by Don Miguel Ruiz, i’ve also read The power of now by eckhart tolle.
I feel like i know alot for my age, sometimes i forget that im 15.
I feel lonely because no one my age knows about these sort of stuff, and no one seems to be interested.
I feel so lonely… Nobody understands me and everyone my age just talks about people, videogames, sex etc. Etc.
What advice do you have for me?July 28, 2015 at 8:31 pm #80711AnonymousGuestDear scorpionealexan:
Did you share this with your father? What did he suggest that you do or how did he suggest you deal with this?
anitaJuly 28, 2015 at 8:41 pm #80712AnonymousInactiveBooks and spirituality is great but balance is an inevitable requirement. I understand that most people your age or even around you wouldnt understand but frankly, would you like to judge them based on what they can talk about or how much authenticity they have, if they are good at heart basically or fun in a healthy way. I feel that too much of interaction or solitude is unhealthy. I had this problem too at 15 for similar yet different reasons – I had a very curious mind, was interested in advanced topics and was already experiencing a number of things my peers werent. This isnt a poor reflection of me or them. Some friends are there for silly company, some are there for serious stuff, some for secrets nd advice, some for shopping – the key is to see that if they fit into the basic prmeters you have for a friend rather than only focusing on one (like how they talk mainstream) or not being the perfect type for you. To work on your loneliness, you have to first accept that you do want people in your life, understand what kind of people you like and what you wont accept at all, then cultivate them – no one is just like you but thats really your journey, people enrich our lives but dont complete them. However, for your long term well being, i really think you need balance – find other means to express yourself – write, create music or observe nature. Think about this.
July 28, 2015 at 9:08 pm #80713LorenzoParticipantThanks! This was very helpful!
July 29, 2015 at 11:55 am #80762SaiishaParticipantHello scorpionalexan, you seem to be an old soul, and you’re fortunate to have a father who was able to introduce you to spirituality at an age when you were ready. Of course it’s a life-long evolution, but you started early, and it’s not surprising that other kids your age are simply not ready yet, and might never be. I agree with Moongal though – a bit of balance with what’s more normal (for lack of a better word) would be a good thing for you. Otherwise, solitude and loneliness could lead to unnecessary illnesses like depression. Explore what brings you joy. Pursue what makes you smile and laugh. Life (or spirituality for that matter) doesn’t have to be serious!
July 30, 2015 at 5:10 pm #80888LorenzoParticipantThank you. 🙂
July 31, 2015 at 4:04 am #80911Adam PParticipantHello there fellow old soul Lorenzo,
Don’t worry about it. Embrace it and make it your strength. But as Moongal mentioned balance is key. I was the same way like you back in high school because growing up I spent my childhood around adults and visiting people in hospitals, nursing homes, etc and learning things other kids my age were not yet exposed to. While in high school, I did manage to connect with others and made a few friends by talking about sports and videogames. I will say Lorenzo if you want to not feel “lonely” you will have to step out of your comfort zone and take an interest in what your fellow students enjoy. Us guys love sports. If you do like sports and know any little bit of information, step out of your comfort zone and do something BIG. Football season is around the corner and be bold and if you have a social network , invite some friends/classmates to play fantasy football, just make sure to do your homework/research. Or with videogames, you don’t have to play them, but you can read up on it and talk about them with your classmates. While still continuing to read and educate your mind, you may have people ask you “So Lorenzo what’s the deal, what’s gotten into you?” or similar types of questions. Just inform them that you are taking an interest in something new and are learning about it.
If you have any more questions, feel free to contact me.
Thank you and take careAugust 1, 2015 at 8:01 am #81000LorenzoParticipantIs it really that bad if i just choose to be alone. I feel like people are too much. Im not saying im going to be anti social, ill socialize i just don’t want to make friends, its too much. What do you think?
August 1, 2015 at 8:02 am #81001LorenzoParticipantWell, its a decision i recently thought about.
August 1, 2015 at 11:35 am #81007Adam PParticipantBy all means Lorenzo, it’s your decision and best of luck to you.
Just want to say that it’s worthless to have so much knowledge and not “share” it with others. There will be people out there that will actually want to hang out with you and if they understand that people can be draining for you, if they’re good people they will understand and leave you alone and want to socialize with you another time.
Thank you and take care of yourself young man.August 1, 2015 at 12:32 pm #81012LorenzoParticipantThanks.
August 1, 2015 at 10:49 pm #81037AnonymousInactiveDear Lorenzo,
Do whAt you feel is best. If a good friendship naturally blossoms, then keep it 😉 Along the years, it wont be an area of regret 🙂
Regards,
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