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    PathOfPeace
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    Hello Everyone. Just a interesting question I wanted to ask. After your first child, what did you notice in change when it came to yourself or your partner. Did they become nicer? Meaner? Distant? Remain the same? How did the relationship in your marriage change?

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    Giulia
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    Hello this is a nice question, but it could also be a hard one. I have three children and after my first pregnancy I changed a lot and I would definitely say for the better. It made me question everything, my son has been my greatest teacher . He has made me question every belief that I had about parenting, he has made me confront a lot of my behaviours, he has help me to see that trying to please others is not healthy, and that my relationship with him is paramount. He enabled me to see that a lot of the reasons I felt so bad about myself was not the case I was a bad person, but because I have been completely given that message as a child. So he showed me that letting my children be that authentic selves is of more importance than training them to be obedient. After I had my twins, things became very very challenging for me and I had to distance myself from my family. I bring this up as my relationship with my husband deteriorated at this point. I realise now that are as soon as I had my first Child, brought up a lot for him. He was left by his mother when he was a baby, she came back to him after two months. What I think happened for him is that when he saw me natural our babies to the level that I do, it was I’m Barrabool for him to see a baby being held aloft an aware that he never received. He shot done emotionally. I found that I was pretty much a solo mum since they were born. And apparently this is quite a common issue, but once you are aware of The fact that come be quite helpful to know. There is a book called why men leave, or maybe why fathers leave by Melvin someone. It’s a good and vital read.

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    Giulia
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    Barraboil was unbearable! So sorry for all the typos, I’m on my phone

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