November 16, 2015 at 2:32 pm #87684
One of the first things I let go of when I wanted to start changing my life for the better was to stop watching the news. And that list of what I let go keeps growing – anything (people, events, beliefs, behaviors) that drains my energy and not serving my purpose is the way I recognize it.
What do YOU know you need to let go?November 16, 2015 at 3:26 pm #87687
Sounds like a poem.
What do you know
you need to let go?
is it the news, the paper
or the late night show?
I need to let go
of the need to know
of the need to know
of how my life’s end will go
I need to let go
of appearing a pro
to all my bro
And lately oh
I need to let go
of worrying so
about the fact
I have little dough
at least it’s sunny
[ hope you didn’t think my reply was disrespectful Saisha]November 16, 2015 at 3:35 pm #87688
Oh not at all Jack – I appreciate the levity – and actually you had some truths in there! Made me laugh 🙂November 16, 2015 at 4:51 pm #87693
Re watching the news. I can fully understand you not watching the news. It is so upsetting, depressing, negative, mainly focussing on what is wrong in the world. Happiness or happy people don’t rate! It’s almost like happiness is boring.
But then there is part of me that thinks we need to know what is going on in the world. I think we need some awareness of current events to better understand other people’s views and where they are coming from. Otherwise we start to lose touch completely.
What I don’t like is the media circus. Now there are thousands of journalists in Paris. Do we really need that many there?November 16, 2015 at 6:16 pm #87697
I couldn’t agree more Jack – and I don’t mean I’ve lost touch with the world – just that I don’t watch it obsessively. I don’t want to give my energy to the insanity of sensational journalism lately. I read somewhere that the 24 hour news channels were set up in response to 9/11 – which maybe makes sense for times like the Paris attacks – but what about the other days of the year when it just becomes mindless TV?November 16, 2015 at 6:26 pm #87701
I let go of TV service since 2013. I let go of living in the city (LA) and am living outside the city limit with neighbors as far away as I ever had (but not far away enough), the roads here are private roads, this is how away this is. Trees all around, wild life. No TV. No cable, netflix, none of that, no movies, nothing but the fire in the wood stove and the howling wind. And the computer, this forum, my only forum. I let go of employment and do not intend to be employed. I dedicated myself to the path of… healing, awakening, evolving since 2011 and that IS my life work. There was a whole LOT to work on, still in progress. I hope I answered your question.
* jack the poet, what a delight!
anitaNovember 16, 2015 at 6:34 pm #87702
Your home sounds like mine Anita – living in the wild, in nature, no cable, no TV, no netflix – nothing but fire in the wood stove and the howling wind. I talk to beavers and gophers and hawks for conversation. And although I have given up conventional employment, I’m creating a living by helping and awakening others on this path. I love that we have a shared sense of the world we live in – so thank you for responding to my question! You do some amazing work here on TinyBuddha – and what a way to help others but also heal yourself too!!November 16, 2015 at 6:43 pm #87704
Thank you, Saiisha. Deer and elks, eagles and owls and hawks, coyotes…
And you are welcome too!
anitaNovember 16, 2015 at 6:45 pm #87705
You guys live in the country. I’m envious except I’m addicted to convenience of supermarkets and bakeries. Oh and doctors too and ….November 16, 2015 at 7:18 pm #87709
This is a good topic. I am not thinking my best tonight. Here are things I am in the process of letting go of:
Fear (of what already happened)
Anger, much of
Thought distortions, Mind reading, all or nothing/black and white thinking, catastrophizing, personalizing, jumping to conclusions…
The disease to please
Caring what others think of me
Trying to change what I cannot change
Toxic inner critic, inner bully, abusive superego…
Being passive, unassertive
InsanityNovember 16, 2015 at 7:26 pm #87710
Ooops, anita is not on the list of what I am trying to let go of…November 16, 2015 at 8:22 pm #87714
yes I agree anita
I think I will start a list too
I need to let go of:
my need to impress my siblings
my need for some social status
my need for certainty about the future
my need to control the details of my life
creature comforts like chocolate mousseNovember 17, 2015 at 7:26 am #87759
* Dear Jack:
Would you like my feelings about the things you want to let go of? I will give you on input about the chocolate mousse, that could be helped by going for cocoa, see thread called “FOOD”- regarding the other things, we can discuss those if you’d like, or start a new thread.
anitaNovember 17, 2015 at 2:46 pm #87806
No its fine anitaNovember 17, 2015 at 4:41 pm #87809
Hi Anita – Thanks for your thoughtful list! Fear and anger are certainly at the top of my list. Distortions is a biggie, isn’t it – it’s our monkey mind playing it both ways to suit its purposes, its need to be right, its need to be “better”, whatever that better might be.
I couldn’t agree more about social conventions, disease to please, caring what others think of me – I’m a lot better than before, but even this morning I wrote in my journal about caring what other people think – so obviously I’m still struggling.
Funny you said “anita” wasn’t on the list, but ultimately, that’s the last thing we need to let go of – our selves 🙂