Felix,

Thank you for sharing. I am 25, working on my masters and have a career, financials are all straight and I am an independent woman.. and guess what?! I’m having trouble finding a guy. I even wrote a thread about it. The reason why I am mentioning this to you is because everyone is going through it.

I want you to list all the qualities you look for in a potential ‘dream girl’. The reason why I ask is that it sounds like you are only looking for girls that you are physically attracted to. Hate to break it to you but looks fade. Also, do you only want a girl with you because you ‘have money’?

In my opinion, you have not met the right girl because you are looking in all the wrong places. Even woman who are attractive can have really bad personalities.

I believe there is a woman out there for you but you are not ready for her, partially because you have not matured. The woman you spoke to on IG is the modern way to ‘shoot your shot’ so I get that. Perhaps you flexed too much and the girls thought you were arrogant and cocky. I hope you realize many woman have their financials straight too. Many  woman do not have to rely an a guy, so you have to bring more to the table.

I have introverted friends as well and I do not hold them accountable to help me find a guy. You shouldn’t either because even if they did find a girl attractive they would snatch her up themselves.

Loving yourself is important. Focusing on yourself is important. I hear it all the time. When its meant to be the right person will come along.. even I am waiting patiently. I have gotten my heart broken and been abandoned twice. You learn and get better.

Both of the girls that didnt reply to my texts are both im attracted to, but ended up making me feeling down. Im just confused if there is something wrong with me or maybe im a bad luck person…

Hi Felix!

I’ve singled these two sentences out, because they’re important. You are basing that second statement on the rejection of TWO girls.  What were your expectations when you messaged them?

I would also suggest you continue to work on loving yourself. It’s an ongoing process, and you should definitely keep going at least until you get to the point that you realize that someone’s rejection doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or that you have bad luck. It just means they aren’t a match for you. Not everyone will be a match, and so far, from what you’ve posted here, you’re sort of beating yourself up over the fact that three girls haven’t been a match for you, but that number is very, very low. This doesn’t mean you should be going after girls you’re not attracted to… just alter your expectations a bit when you do talk to girls or when you message them… just because you’re interested in dating them does not mean they’ll be interested in dating you. This does not mean anything is wrong with you or that you should change anything about yourself to make them interested (because that would not be genuine). This is true for literally everyone on the planet. One person’s interest will never guarantee the other person’s interest… and dating is hard. It’s sort of a number’s game. The more people you get to know, the more likely you’ll find someone who is just as interested in you as you are of them.