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    Hayley
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    This all  happened very suddenly. Me and my boyfriend loved eachother, he would always randomly say I love you and remind me how beautiful I was to him. He would go out of his way to be alone with me. He would help me when I had cramps and we were hanging out. Soon soccer came along and whenever I asked to hang  out he would either have a soccer game or soccer practice.  And I believed him I never took it personally.  Soon I kind of   Stop asking as much waiting for him to ask so I would know he was available. And he never seemed mad or anything. Then him and his family went camping, he couldn’t text me or snap chat me as much cause of his signal and he was busy, again I was never upset about it. When he came back I had begun triathlon which was taking up a lot of my time  as well as summer school.  I assumed it didn’t bother him because he never really called me either. Then towards the end of the week like on a Thursday he was acting very odd.  Wasn’t as happy and sweet towards me as he usually was he was kind of shady and cold.  I asked him what was wrong numerous times throughout Thursday and Friday but he would always ignore.  He then told me it was because I wasn’t doing anything to make him like me or I didn’t really care about our relationship. I told him that was not true and that I loved him and I haven’t been talking to anyone cause I have been busy. He kept telling me that I was “b.s” him in other words making up excuses. But I honestly wasn’t. He told me I have to do something to make him like me again I told him I loved him and said goodnight to him and tried to just talk.  But she wouldn’t answer my calls and whenever I try to just have a friendly conversation he would be very rude to me about it and not very nice at all.  Soon enough he started getting really mean it and I asked him why are you so annoyed with me and he said I don’t know.  Soon enough he told me it was over.  I was a little upset about it but I faced.  We agreed to not talk for a week to just give each other a break because he was clearly upset with me about something but he wouldn’t tell me or be clear with me as to why. he would say I know but I had not a clear idea of what he was upset about.  I asked him if he wanted to get back together and he said when we hang out we can talk about it so I took that as a positive but I asked to do want to hang out if you kept blowing me off again so I just said do you even want to hang out he’s like we have to lose being best friends on Snapchat and I was confused why that matter to him where I was on his friends list. He told me not to ask him I’ll see you just blocked me so I stopped and then this morning he blocked me I have an asked him why because somethings telling me not to but somethings telling me I should and I just really want advice on what to do at this point because right now he’s blocked me and I haven’t talk to him at all.  Before he officially blocked me today this boy  told me he liked me for a long time and we were just kind of like you know getting close and stuff and  my ex right now got mad at me for liking him saying I was a player but I told my ex  I broke up with me and I guess it was just a way of distracting myself from him.  My ex when we were talking he would just go out of his way to make fun of me when I was crying about Pat Pat had recently passed away so I don’t know if I’ve done something wrong I don’t know what it is I have done but I’m just confused as to what to do he blocked me should I ask him I don’t know what to do.

    #158532

    anita
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    Dear Hayley:

    I don’t know why he can’t tell you what is bothering him. But the fact that he was rude to you and then blocked you is a very clear indication that he is not your friend or boyfriend. I think it is time to move on from this relationship, place it in your past, and aim at friends and a possible future boyfriend who is honest and open, willing to tell you what he thinks/ feels so that you are not confused. Confusion is not a good thing in a relationship, not when it can be avoided by honest, open communication.

    anita

    #158544

    Hayley
    Participant

    Thank you for the advice. I do agree and understand what your are saying. Some of my friends are telling me to not reach out to him at all or at least for a while. But I have so many unanswered questions part of me is hopeful to text him and ask him why but some people are telling me not to. I just want to know why he did it and what I have done. As much as I have been told I didn’t deserve him I want to be hopeful because I am still attached to what we once were and part of me still cares for him. So I don’t know if I should text him and ask or forget it

    #158548

    anita
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    Dear Hayley:

    It could be that you didn’t do anything, really (“I just want to know.. what I have done”).

    If I read you correctly, you already asked him and he didn’t answer you, blocking you instead. If you asked repeatedly and he didn’t answer, better stop asking. Especially after he blocked you. Blocking your access to him includes blocking you from asking him questions, isn’t it.

    anita

    #158560

    Hayley
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    At this rate I guess I will just leave him alone thank you

    #158584

    anita
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    You are welcome, Hayley.

    anita

    #158764

    Eliana
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    Hi Hayley,

    I don’t have much too add, but many times, when I interact with men via “Snapchat” “Facebook” “We chat” etc..it usually does not work out. I usually do not communicate with men by “texting” either because texting alot and social media can cause alot of problems with communication, or lack of it. That is why I no longer have profiles on Social Media. I once met a man on Facebook and tended to have “jealousy” because he would get angry and block me, or I would block him, or he would “friend” a woman and so on..too much unnecessary drama. So from now on, try to communicate with men by person only or phone. Try to stay away from “texting” unless urgent and social media because it causes alot of problems in relationships.

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