Hi Ben
8 years doesn’t seem like a big age difference.
Can you provide a little more context? What was she wanting you to do without being told?
Ah yes, that’s a familiar phrase. It reminds me of a conversation I had with my flatmate. He wanted me to remind him when he should do all of his chores. As he’s an adult, he has a responsibility to manage his own chores. I shouldn’t have to tell him what to do.
Mentioning age seems to have been a trigger for you. Are there any other situations where she’s mentioned age? Have you communicated that you don’t like her to talk about your age?
How do you feel about getting older? It seems to be a sensitive subject for you.