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Why is my ego clashing with my real character ?

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    Tebriz
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    Hello everyone. I’ve been feeling low this couple of days, not being able to eat or to think straight. Im feeling confused and overwhelmed, even tho I think I know whats the thing that is bothering me. Me, I am an easy going girl who wants to have fun, go out meet people and so. In the past half an year I didn’t had anything more serious than two dates with the same person. This kind of dating style was/is great for me since in this moment I don’t want anything serious from a relationship. This summer especially I was going out a lot, meeting guys and so. Even tho i didnt really had sex, i was physically involved. So, the real me is unbothered and I dont really care what is their perception on me ( if they think im some kind of a hoe, or whatever) because I know who I actually am. But from time to time, I will meet someone, and I kinda like them a bit more than the physical and their opinion of me becomes kinda important. And its not me that cares, I think my ego is probably big and cannot accept that some specific person will see me as an one night stand, when in the same time thats all I ever want ! As I said generally I dont care of their opinions at all, but in a rare times like this, I do. Im not emotionally connected to this person, so why do I care on his view on me ? Is this dating style good for me after all ? Cause in this moment all I wish is for him not to see me as some hoe/shallow basic girl. All of this experience should be fun and games and it generally is, but sometimes I cannot help to feel so emotional and worried if he thinks that’s all of me. Feeling extremely overwhelmed by my emotions and overthinking.

    #224809
    Inky
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    Tebriz,

    Excuse me for saying so, but I think the adult Tabriz is infiltrating on the girl Tebriz. As we grow even more into older women, your body, age, hormones, etc. is preparing for you to take on raising a family of your own. Of course, this has nothing to do with our actual “plan”, it’s more the Universal Human Lifecycle thing. The DNA of hundreds of women who were about your age when they married their life partner, is taking over.

    YES you deep down care about what certain guys think. NO you don’t want him to think of you as a one-night stand. After all, if you DO start a family someday, having a special guy have a good opinion of you is the foundation of where to start.

    I think it’s natural.

    Just remember to have fun despite it all.

    Best,

    Inky

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by Inky.
    #224835
    Tebriz
    Participant

    Thank you Inky for taking the time to reply, and yes you are probably right. And I was thinking that yes, of course it will be times when I just simply like someone more than the usual.

     

    #224987
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Tebriz:

    From having re-read your April thread and this one, it is clear to me that you are “an easy going girl who wants to have fun” for as long as you stay away from emotional attachment, for as long as you remain unattached. You shared April that you have suffered from anxiety, panic attacks and depression.

    These things, anxiety, panic attacks (fear) and depression are not fun, of course. Emotional attachment/involvement with a man brings this very unpleasant experience to you, so you keep it light and fleeting.

    Your “real character”, I am thinking, is about two conflicting motivations: to love and be loved in return, and fearing it.

    Would you like to share about the anxiety and depression you felt early on in life, before you started dating?

    anita

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