Hi Vaishalig,
I see that Anders has responded to your question and I agree with everything he says.
When I was 21, the same thing happened to me except that I found out that my husband had been cheating all along and I never knew. I was very young and very idealistic. I could not believe that such a huge betrayal could happen to me.
I too cried all the time. It was the hardest thing I had ever experienced and believe it or not, I was surprised when I woke up in the morning and found I had not died of a broken heart. I know it sounds dramatic but it was very real to me at the time. It was also very confusing.
I will tell you the one thing that got me through this very, very bad point in life and that was talking to people who had been through something similar and had somehow managed to come out the other side and find happiness with someone who really cared about them.
For me, it was good that it happened when it did. I was young (so are you!) and I knew that what I had thought was the perfect marriage was something that I had created in my mind and it wasn’t real. Sooner or later it would end this way and it was better to face it now and deal with it than to put it off until later.
Since the wonderful ladies that I met who had been through it were there for me, I will be here for you.
Believe me when I tell you that you are very much stronger than you feel you are right now. I promise you that. The very fact that this is causing you so much pain tells me that you are a person who feels things deeply and therefore is capable of great love and commitment. You deserve someone who is also capable of that too. You will find it.
I did go on to get married again. It was 10 years later but when I found the right man, I knew it was right. We have been married for 25 years now and will be together until the end of our lives. This is what you deserve and this is what you can create. Put It out to the universe that you want a really good man and you will find one. But first take your time and heal. The one thing about going through really tough times is that we start to see how powerful and strong we really are.
You will get through it and you will be happy again.
Good luck!
XO Chris

Hi Vaishalig,
Everything in nature carries a balance……. so when you feel sad very very sad , then will be a day you feel very much happy………
there will be lot of struggle always around not just for you for everyone … then it means you are not alone…. we are all together. .
I definitely can feel what it is to lose someone whom we lived with but you know time can heal ……
bitterness will go away bit by bit….. keep seeing your thoughts as they are let them pass n pass…. all this takes due course of time ….but eventually you will come out stronger.
Healing takes time but will happen for sure……
Have a look at your 8 years old star whenever you feel like having warmth…..
you surely will get the blessing in disguise……………………..
chil