yogagrl,

I was drawn to your post because of the title that directly addresses whether men ever regret…

The easiest answer is “yes”.  Men, and women, regret many things that they have chosen to do.  You will never find a perfect person who has consistently made all of the “right” decisions in life.  The majority of people will have some amount of moral experience to at some point feel sorry for what they perceive as errors that they may have made in the past.  There are of course a distinct few individuals out there who are truly monsters, psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists who only care for themselves and lack all sense of empathy and remorse.  (Steer clear of these fiends if at all possible!)  I don’t think from your description that your ex falls into this category of evil people though.

I’m discovering that love isn’t something that comes in equal portions of intensity and experience.  It’s surely not forever…  Hopefully we are all in our lifetimes able to experience love, but we also have to recognize that it comes in many different forms.  Aside from the horrible individuals I described above who are unable to love (the only reason to pity them because they will never love…) We will all experience different types of love and different intensities.  Unfortunately our society has done a good job of making love pretty generic.  “I love chocolate milk” or “I really love how you did your hair today!” are a couple examples of how disposable the word love has become.  Love as a concept and feeling is many fold too.  I have a much different experience of love for my pet, my children, my friends, family, or intimate partner.  In each of those categories the intensity of love may differ also based on a person’s experience.  I absolutely adore my children, but I can honestly say I love my sister more than I love my mother because of things that have happened in my past.  The same thing holds with the girls I have dated/married/divorced…  and I regret.  I regret the mistakes I have made that may have change my life and the life of someone else, but we can’t predict the future any more than we can change the past.  So unless he happens to be heartless, I’m sure that he will occasionally hear a song or see a sight that reminds him of you, and he’ll wonder for a second…

You though are still carrying a burden that you should let go of before it poisons you any further.  Life is an adventure, and much of it is a gamble.  We’ll all experience good and bad, but what we do with our experiences and what we learn is greatly up to us.  This is a hard thing to learn and even harder to practice, but when you begin to focus on improving yourself and loving yourself, you improve your chances of attracting the successes that you desire.  You wonder if you’ll ever see him again?  You wonder if he will ever come back?  Is that what you want?  and if you do, you do know that you can influence the possibilities of success?  Ultimately it will be half his decision, but it’s not impossible…  Don’t expect life to be fair from your perspective.  You look at his current situation and sense unfairness based on the residual emotions you have.  The intensity of his love may not have matched yours, and honestly, that he waited over a year to begin dating someone else is a sign that he gave himself the necessary time for himself to recover from your relationship before putting himself out there again.  He’s obviously moved on into his next love.  You’ll have to let it run it’s course and decide what you’ll do in the meantime.  Torture yourself with what ifs and wondering if he still thinks of you occasionally, or jumping into the mosh pit of life and love…

wishing you health and happiness,

Ramone

Dear yogagrl:

The title of your thread: “Will men ever regret ending a relationship?”- some men regret ending some relationships, others don’t. What you meant to ask is: will your ex boyfriend regret ending the relationship with you.

How can anyone reading your thread answer this question? I can’t because I don’t know him. Strangely, neither do you.

After three years of a relationship, when he broke up with you over the phone, doesn’t seem to me like you asked him questions or wondered out loud to him, on the phone, about why aren’t you talking in person about separation, after three years…?

Then there were no more talks for a long time, followed by a few catching-up talks. Again, no real communication. How strange.

Your education as a medical doctor entails a lot of concrete information, practical science. And yet, when it comes to relationships, seems to me, your thinking of the magical kind: loves me/ loves me not. Maybe we’ll get together some day over the rainbow.

If you ever choose to have a meaningful conversation with him, if such is possible on your part and his, ask him, ask him why he broke up with you. Ask him if he ever regretted breaking up with you and if he thinks he will ever regret it…

For concrete information, ask the source of the information- the ex regarding this past relationship, or a future boyfriend in a future relationship.

anita

Well, I also didn’t knew there difference and thought they were one and the same thing until I read about it on internet only. See there is a big difference between two of them as dating means casual seeing each other having fun where you can check on other girl/boy too but when you are in a relationship you give a commitment that you are with him/her. Let me explain you with an example, suppose you go to market to sunglasses, you have a certain image of how that should look like and range etc, that’s your type and let sunglasses be your partner. Then you go to a shop see various designs and sort some of them, you try them,now this is dating,you like some qualities among various available options,try them, have a look for a while that what suits you better and then you purchase it making a commitment that yes you’ve got what you wanted and now will not try any other and will settle down with this one, this is relationship, where you make commitment and stick to it. But sometimes you fail to make a good choice or somehow that glass us broken so you again go to shop, ask for its repair or choose another one,that is breakup when you choose another one instead of repairing the one you selected earlier. Hope you get it, you can have multiple dates and try each one, with some casualties and precautions depending upon the situation and then make a final statement which will be your relationship. Keep smiling… if you want to date with girls and boys then you can visit this site

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