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January 5, 2025 at 12:36 am #441283
HelcatParticipantPart of me doesn’t believe it is possible to step back from it. But I know that the first step is believing that it is possible.
January 5, 2025 at 8:36 am #441290
shinnenParticipantHi Helcat,
We’ve all learned to live with fear running in the background, to varying degrees. It’s my opinion that fear is a much more potent motivator than love. I’m sure many people will disagree with that. Yes, I agree, hurt does mean caring. Only the people I care about can hurt me.
I’m encouraged to hear that things are looking up for you and your hubby. The few times I’ve had a tiff with my wife were very upsetting, for both of us; I can’t imagine what that’s like on an ongoing basis.
…. johnJanuary 5, 2025 at 9:05 am #441291shinnenParticipantHi Helcat,
Thumbs up for the that, your son sleeping through the night. Gives you a new lease on life eh!
Being elusive may just be his shtick. Ah, so the burning was connected to the shredding; I hadn’t realized that.
A million words is a lot of poetry😉.
The best art quote is one I came up with after spending weeks trying to fit my eulogy to Sappho into sapphic verse;
but yes, I’m sure others have come to the same realization, after the same process.
Oddly, when I gave up trying, this is what came out, as easily as writing a sentence.
“Blow mighty Aeolus.
Blow your priestess Sappho’s soft sweet echoes of golden climes,
through raging storms and wasting wars;
free from the chains of dead dumb tongues and the tombs of time;
that they may caress these strings and sing eternal your praises.”
“There is nothing wrong with being present and giving life your all.”
Isn’t that what we all strive for?
Yes, the thrill of vacuuming will wear off, sooner or later, hopefully later☺️.
” Hmm well common things like losing a job, relationships ending and death of a loved one are all considered to be traumatic. ” Oh, ok then; yes, most people have probably experienced trauma.
Take care of yourself,
….. johnJanuary 5, 2025 at 12:58 pm #441309HelcatParticipantHi John
It sure does! I have some time to myself again. 😊
Two separate events, on different years I believe. Apologies for not being clearer.
Haha that is definitely true! I find poetry difficult. I wouldn’t want to write a million words of poetry. 😂
Well done on coming up with that too. What a wonderfully apt tribute. I think you did a terrific job. I just looked up sapphic verse, it looks very complicated to write.
You take care as well!
Love, peace and blessings! ❤️🙏
January 6, 2025 at 1:27 pm #441389HelcatParticipantFeeling lighter again. The baby and the puppy are besties already playing together and giggling madly. I blew bubbles for them and they took turns popping them. He shares his old toys with her and throws things for her to fetch.
His love for vacuuming has blossomed into a love for putting his toys away. He’s trying his best, bless his soul.I’m trying to step back from my emotions. There are ups and downs.
I noticed that I feel most relaxed when I’m practicing loving kindness meditation.
A belief that worrying helps me to plan is playing in the background. But I noticed that talking about concerns is more helpful when it comes to problem solving.
Sometimes understanding how I’m feeling helps me. I realised that I was having a rough morning because I was tired. Upon realising that, everything seemed less stressful.
I think that I need to work on focusing on a present task, instead of being lost in my thoughts and feelings.
January 6, 2025 at 8:36 pm #441393shinnenParticipantHi Helcat,
Wow, this is sounding good, the baby and the puppy, blowing bubbles, and putting his toys away.
Yes, I’ve heard that loving kindness works.
I think that talking about things, is good. If they’re personal things,
It brings them out into the open and somehow makes them more real.
When they’re not personal concerns; I find that discussing
helps me hone in on exactly what I’m trying to accomplish,
and how and why I want to do it.
Your statement about, understanding how your feeling being helpful, seems a little odd;
because my sense from our discussions is that you’re probably more in touch
with your feelings than are most people.
… johnJanuary 7, 2025 at 1:44 pm #441411HelcatParticipantHi John
They are having a blast for sure. It’s lovely to watch. 😊
That makes sense.
It might just be being tired that is making me a little slow to pick up on things. I was feeling a little frustrated, then the feelings of tiredness took over and I realised that the frustration was because of the tiredness and if I wasn’t tired I wouldn’t be frustrated.
The older dog was ill last night and kept us awake. I hope he feels better soon and we can get some sleep. Still exhausted. One of these days I’ll sleep. 😂
Take care!
Love, peace and blessings! ❤️🙏January 9, 2025 at 8:54 am #441449HelcatParticipantI noticed that my grief is processing. It used to be sad for me to walk past the area where I thought my cat was lost. Yesterday, I just felt love for her with only a tinge of sadness. Today, I didn’t even notice.
Stepping back while things are calmer is easier. The test will be when things are less calm. I’m glad that things are calmer again. It’s good to be working as a team with my husband again.
The pup, my boy and my studies are keeping me busy.
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