Young and Jobless

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December 24, 2017 at 7:14 am #183365

WorrierLady
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I am a fresh graduate and I only lasted in my first job for 3 months due to a strained relationship with my boss.

I am now applying for a new job but they’re requiring me to submit a clearance from my previous employer. My former boss does not want to sign it. Hence, I am anxious about my future. All companies require that document.

I am considering committing suicide because I do not want to be a burden to my parents who did not nothing but give the best education and support to me my whole life.

In impossible situations like this, how do I hold on and have faith in God?

December 24, 2017 at 9:10 am #183395

Anonymous
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Dear WorriedLady:

You asked how to have faith in God- I don’t believe in God, so I have nothing to offer you in this regard. I hope that maybe another member reading this (very slow activity here these days though) can help you in this regard.

Would you like to share about the strained relationship with your previous boss, what is the nature of that strain and how it came about?– that may give me better understanding and if you answer, I will reply again.

anita

December 24, 2017 at 4:28 pm #183467
Eliana
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DearWorriedLady,

You just graduated, and have a bright and wonderful future to look forward to. Please don’t let one job that lasted three months get you down. It is not your fault. Ask the new job if you can submit other references instead, such as personal or character references. If they are “demanding” one from your previous employer, since it was only a 3 month job, I would not list this on your resume and start fresh. Suicide is a permanent ending to a temporary setback that can be remedied, so please don’t go there. I had countless jobs after my college graduation until I found the right job. I even worked as a temp for two years. The temp agency gave me a good reference. I even used my college professors as a reference. You are allowed to do this, being a fresh graduate. I did some tutoring, (TA) for my Psychology research and statistics class, and used that professor as a reference. Never give up. There are jobs and employers out there that want you. Keep applying with a positive attitude, and in no time, you will find work again.
- This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by Eliana.
December 27, 2017 at 5:27 pm #183983

WorrierLady
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Hi Anita,

Working in operations is chaotic. There were times I was not able to deliver some of my tasks well so my boss would always throw mean words at me everyday. I felt like I was a burden to her so I decided to leave her team. She took my resignation personally because her superiors knew of her attitude and poor coaching towards me.

“A good boss is better than a good company.” – Jack Ma

December 27, 2017 at 5:31 pm #183985

WorrierLady
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Hi Eliana,

Thank you for your words! I will keep those in mind. I will not give up. This is just another setback that will pass. I will keep the fire burning inside me.

Sidenote: It’s WorrierLady that I combined with the words “worry” and “warrior” (pun intended)

December 28, 2017 at 5:06 am #184043

Anonymous
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Dear WorriedLady:

You wrote regarding your previous boss that “her superiors knew of her attitude and poor coaching towards me”- if her superiors believe she lacks in her coaching skills and has an attitude problem, is it possible for you to bypass her and get that clearance, somehow, from… her superiors?

anita

December 28, 2017 at 5:06 am #184045

Anonymous
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* didn’t get submitted correctly…

December 28, 2017 at 5:44 am #184053
WorrierLady
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Hi again,

It is possible but somehow I don’t want to get her in trouble again. I am hopeful that she still has a little compassion left and she does the right thing. If not, then I am left with no choice but to take legal action.
- This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by WorrierLady.
December 28, 2017 at 6:11 am #184069

Anonymous
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Dear WorriedLady:

I hope that you can somehow communicate to her that a legal action may hurt her self-interest, and that such communication will motivate her to be fair and do the right thing by you.

anita

December 28, 2017 at 8:57 pm #184257

RISHABH
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Hi warrior lady,

please never ever even think of a suicide it’s not a solution, u said ur parents love u and u know it’s very very important to have someone u love besides u when u r in tough times and u have feel lucky and thank the gods that u have someone who cares for u and u think what will be their condition if u do such acts and always try to make things easier, like if someone is rude to u don’t give it back or don’t give looks just smile say sorry and move on and try to adjust urself in tough times, just keep smiling giving hugs to ur parents and sharing problems etc they definitely have experience of life and they will show u the way DON’T BE SAD ITS JUST A PHASE OF LIFE IT WILL GO, U R NEVER A BURDEN ON UR PARENTS OKKAES KEEP SMILING BE HAPPY AND STRESS FREE BEST OF LUCK!!
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