Hi there. Something pretty strange happened to me the last few weeks. The people involved are me (I’m a guy), my ex, my sister’s ex and my sister. About my ex, she run away on the spot, never giving me a serious chance after I started developing feelings for her and became open about it. That came 5-6 months in the relationship, well not too short but not too long to say to someone ‘hey I care about you, makes me happy seeing you happy’.

On to the story, we took a break at the time and me, thinking about certain things that I didn’t like in her behavior, I made the break a permanent one to let her go free, without closing the door though. I did say that I felt grateful for everything we had been through and if she needed any help of any kind she should let me know. Also I did say that I would like her back if she would ever be willing to work on some issues. Her behavior was really bad one night back there.

Uhm some time passed, she was always looking for a job. At some point we met some friends, and a friend of a friend was there that she added on fb and they were chatting. Well she wanted to move to another country, that guy was at her dream country. I knew that and accepted the fact, however I was doing my best to help her while she was still here and maybe find some solid opportunities that could keep us together for a while, since I am looking for jobs in other countries too, in the meanwhile I do support myself while I’m here.

Well up to that point, all are ok. That guy introduced my ex to another guy at the same field as her studies. That other guy was my sister’s ex. Well he has been living abroad and the latest news I had from my sister was that he suggested to my sister that they should reunite in a serious relationship, and she should move with him in the country of his current residence. Actually he came back in tears, my sis was sceptical all the way keeping a distance but she admitted she had feelings for him. Anyway that guy was kind of wonky, often lying to her, especially after we learned that him and my ex met when he returned to the city for summer vacation. My sister did confront him about meeting my ex on how did that happen and he gave only generic answers in a defensive stance.

Well my ex is highly exploitive on the other hand, actually, in costant need of some kind of help and she asked this guy to help her. This guy dated my ex but did not originally admit it, my sister however talked about a certain day that he lied about the time he went out and time he got home. She also stalked him a little bit (well she had a valid curiosity, this guy asked her to move with him in another country, for like, forever and get married) and she knew his car was parked all night until morning in a certain spot, in a pretty close distance from my ex’s apartment. But my sister didn’t know that last part. It was only a few days after that I told her that hey this is where my ex lives. Anyway, this guy lying, saying that he was out with a friend of his, me asking my ex about that night revealed that they went out together to “help her find a job”. From were the car was parked he was helping her until 9 in the morning. Well the next day, by lying his way through, this guy slept with my sister too.

After yesterday that the truth was blown, my sister ended all affairs immidiately, very sad because his lies made her dream a better life, this guy also blocked me on fb without ever being friends or having met irl. Me and my ex are in a no mans land, still friends on fb and such and I only keep my attitude a polite one. After all it was me that broke up and if you leave a dog with a steak (my super needy ex next to a phenomenically succesful guy) you can only trust one outcome, that the dog will eat the steak. About that guy, I really feel that a sociopath of some kind came accross like a comet touching a few people in my life.

Well apart that, everything else is fine, I did move on and good opportunities await always. My job is doing well, my friends too and dating as well. My sis is sad but she will work on it as she is a very strong person. Should I however, do something different as the older brother? This thought keeps returning in my mind.

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