Hi Angie,

Well, it’s better you got out NOW than when you’re married and STUCK. Him cheating on you the first time was a sneak preview of things to come. Admit it, if he continued this behavior, YOU would have packed up HIS things and told him “Sorry but I’m not happy”.

There is a slight danger that he will try to return (especially if the new girl will have nothing to do with him and he can’t find anyone right away). Or even years from now when he’s not as cute anymore and he’s scraping the bottom of his contacts. You are to remain strong and put your child first. That means not moving in with someone. It’s too much for the child and will damage him. “My real father isn’t here and now this other guy is treating my mom like crap” will be the unconscious message.

Good Luck and Stay Strong!

Inky

Hi Angie,

I’m sorry to hear you are going through this. This man sounds very unhappy with himself and life in general. He looks outside himself for women and things to make him happy, and it does, but briefly, thereby, he “dumps them” to make matters worse, he blames his problems on you and other people. If he did this to you twice, he will most likely do this to other women, it’s like a vicious cycle. He won’t be happy, because happiness comes from within. I don’t know if he had a bad or traumatic childhood, but this is a very unhealthy, unstable man and only he can change, with professional treatment and counseling. He may also have some sort of mental illness such as ADHD, where he bounces from woman to woman and drifting aimlessly in life or have unresolved depression. It is best not to have any contact with him, as he won’t change, does not sound like he wants to, and you would be resentful and unhappy in the long run. Its best to learn from this. You did nothing wrong, so please don’t blame yourself and count yourself lucky you are not in this toxic relationship anymore. You deserve better, a stable loving man who knows what he wants.