The Internet is a rough and tumble place.  People’s worse parts of themselves come out when they can hide behind the screen without even using their real names.  Communication via text sucks as oppose to an real time, interactive, face-to-face dialog.

I stay away from places that are not moderated.

I find if I engage in real life, supportive friends are a good antidote for such bullying trauma.

Mark

Dear Rainbow,

If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake.

I will suggest you a healing technique depending on what you are experiencing right now.

So what is the exact issue right now – is it only troublesome thoughts or do you experience certain negative feelings (perhaps somewhere in your body like chest, stomach, head etc.) or both of them partly.

Let me know your inputs and I will suggest you accordingly.

Don’t worry. Your healing has already begun since the time you realized that you did something wrong.

~VJ

Hi Rainbow,

I was also going to suggest you ho’oponopono. It is a perfect solution to all of your problems. How is it going with you? How are you doing it? Since how long have you been doing and how many times a day?

Best,

VJ

Hi Rainbow,

Yes I have found ho’oponopono to be effective and especially in these situations. This technique is based on Repentance – Forgiveness- Gratitude-Love, it is exactly what you need at this point of time.

Only a healing technique is going to help you achieve to come out of your situation. I have found the technique to be effective but after I add my own variations to it which I am also going to tell you.

Go through the below points in the order as it is mentioned below.

i] Simply go through the articles with an open mind – http://www.upliftconnect.com/hawaiian-practice-of-forgiveness

ii] www.laughteronlineuniversity.com/practice-hooponopono-four-simple-steps

iii] At times I do the formal technique using the regular words. But during the chanting the negative memories, the relationships, or the bad situation start to keep coming up on the surface. I then shift by saying several variations and I suggest you to do the same.

For example;

Multiple times I begin with I’m Sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you.

Then – I’m sincerely sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you.

Dear God, I am really sorry for all that I have done in the past. Please forgive me, Thank you, I Love you.

I’m so sorry for all the mistakes that I have done in the past. Please forgive me, Thank you, I really Love you.

I’m so very sorry for all the mistakes that I did in the past. It was all out of ignorance. So please forgive me, Thank you, I really Love you.

I’m sorry for what I have done. Please forgive me. Please bless all those people whom I have hurt. I thank you for that. I really love you.

…and so on.

And you need not worry much whom you are saying this to. If you have a God like figure in your life then say it to God. If not keep all those people, that website, that forum on the screen of your mind and do the chanting. Or simply say it out to nobody. You can do this anywhere – while standing in a queue, while cooking, while washing dishes, and especially during those times when the thoughts bother you. If I do not have the energy to chant loudly then I whisper silently. I sometimes even write it out on a sheet of paper repeatedly from the top to its bottom and then tear it out.

You have to stop or at least minimize going to the website and the posts. Whenever there is an intense need to visit the posts, then don’t go immediately. Pause for a while. Move somewhere else. And Start the chanting.

iv.]  Tonight just before going to bed put on your headphones and listen and chant along with the below video.

Don’t take a look at the below right now. Do it tonight before going to bed or if it is early morning for you by the time to read this then do it now.

(www.youtube.com/watch?v=2pfNkNKIaMo)

This is just for the first time. Later on you can listen the video anytime you want.

No it is not at all wrong for you to start with any expectations. But you simply have to do the practice. Do it continuously and diligently for 21 days as that is the minimum number of days required to form a new habit.

You can let me know your progress and I will suggest you if anything is needed.

Take care,

~VJ

• This reply was modified 6 years, 9 months ago by VJ.

Dear Rainbow:

You did not mention what those posts you made four years ago were about. Reading how emotional you are about these, I hesitate to ask you to share about what you expressed in those posts, four years ago. But because this issue is so painful for you, it may help to do so. Maybe I can help you get a better understanding of what is so severely distressing you.

If you would like, if you can handle it and choose to do so, will you share what it is you communicated in those posts? If you do, please make it short, just what it is you stated there (no later, retroactive commentary)?

anita