Here’s the thing about attraction… it can increase or decrease with the person’s personality.  There have been guys in my past who I was not even close to being attracted to at first and then the more I got to know them, the more attractive they become to me to the point where I really fell for them. And then others have been so super attractive at first but turned out to be terrible guys, treating people horribly and just not fun to be around, and those guys lost attractiveness.  So I think maybe you need to give the guy who treats you well some time. Keep getting to know him since there is obviously something there and keep working on getting out of the abusive relationship in the meantime. Who knows, maybe by the time you’re free of your relationship, you will have developed a real attraction to the man who will treat you how you deserve.