Hi, I am a new member here! I just joined yesterday.

My boyfriend of 10 months just broke up with me 2 weeks ago, and needless to say, it left me heart broken. My brain went in circles and I was trying to figure out what I did wrong in the relationship. One thing was we never did a good job in communication. He is 17 and I’m 19. He wants to pursue a career in E-sports and becomes a competitive player. I supported his career track, but at the same time I was concerned that he should have a plan B in case since he dropped out early and never got a highschool diploma. Thus I tried to talk him into taking the GED, which according to many friends I have, is fairly easy and doesn’t need a lot of preparation. I really thought it would be really nice to take GED classes at local education center and practice for E-sports at the same time… I think the fact that I pushed it way too much was the breaking point of the relationship since I listened to my friend and gave him the ultimatum that if you don’t do it, I will leave. Now thinking back, I just thought it was so stupid of me to even do that since I thought he could be doing a lot of things with his time. I loved him and honestly I was just trying to look out for him in the future, but now I realised that wasn’t really healthy for me to do that.

Yesterday his friend called me a manipulative bitch and told me to stay away from his life and I’m not welcomed anywhere… I was really hurt because I only thought of doing it out of love and care… not to exert my power over him or anything. This was my first relationship and I think I handled it pretty poorly. We had our happy moments, but it is sad because in the end, the bad outweighed the good. When we were still in it, I complimented him on things he did, I showed love by showing my appreciation for him, and whenever he said he felt like a failure because of dropping out I encouraged him that he had potential and he just needed time to develop it higher… I also visited him last month on Valentine’s, and he told me he had never been happier…

My friends told me it wasn’t my fault because I was just trying to help him, but I don’t think I was since he didn’t really want to get the certification now and would rather wait for another year to do it. He still wanted me to be in touch and tried to keep me as a friend, but I left on my own and decided to take a break from social media for 2 months.

I was wondering if anyone could give me some insights on my past relationship? For now, I have moved on and I want to learn…