Dear anita,

thank you for all your efforts! I know that you really give your all to help people! I have read your post from Monday again and am thinking about it. You are right that my inner critic resembles a lot of how I was treated in my past. I have to think more about it.

About black and white thinking: you are right, sometimes it is better to see things in black and white terms. It surely would have saved me from a lot of trouble, if I had not desperately tried to understand others instead of setting clear boundaries. The constant doubt makes me more confused and weakens me. I am trying to stop overanalyzing and accepting things as they are.