Dear Tineoidea,

It is the same project, and of course he was removed from it a long time ago, when the conflict in between those two was ongoing and he pushed my hand. The slandering was done through mutual acquaintances.

Earlier you said that she too is working on a mutual project with you (“We engaged in many activities together, even a mutual project. Simply put, we connected very well on most levels and could enjoy each other’s company even while working“).

You said that she too noticed his problematic behavior at work (I’ve had a lot of people complain about his conduct and how he was sabotaging things with his thoughtless behavior, which in turn devalued my own work, which is also what my ex kept saying about him.)

Does it mean that the three of you all work (or have worked) on the same project? You said earlier that she was “expecting you to work on multiple things at once”. Was in the work context – is she perhaps your supervisor?

And also, when your “friend” started slandering you recently, did she believe him? Are you in danger of getting fired from the project?

I’ll address the other points in your latest post later, but I just wanted to clarify this.